Hello EC ... From the title , I'm gay . It hasn't been that much since i accepted myself and came out as a gay . I'm not questioning again but a friend asked me something and it made me think . So , i have never been with a guy , 3 kisses is all what happened and nothing more , and every kiss ended up in a bad way . Today a friend asked me on ASK " i know that you have never been with a guy , how do you know you are into guys ! and if you ever had a thing with someone and you didn't like it , does that makes you straight ! I Emotionally you might be gay , but is that enough ! It's just a question that came up to my mind :icon_wink you don't need to answer it , just think about it . " It somehow made a storm inside my head ! Can someone be emotionally and physically different !! It's like a tricky question , i don't know !!:help:
That sounds like the same thing my mum asked me when I was 16 and I came out to her. You either know it or you don't. Are you sexually attracted to men or women? That's the real question you should be asking.
I've been asked the same thing. Like the poster above said. Who are you sexually attracted to? I'm emotionally and sexually attracted to guys, so it doesn't matter if I haven't had sex with a guy, I have my reasons. How do you know it? Go to redtube and find out
Thanx guys .Suddenly the question became much easier to answer ! . I'm totally into men .... i don't watch porn anymore , i have only watched a couple of times but i stopped .
Well, can you remember instances where you've seen guys that are considered attractive and you feel all funny inside and stuff? What about seeing guys on TV? Or dreams about kissing guys? How about not ever considering wanting to settle down with a woman and marry her? These are all things that I think that you should look at. I knew that I was gay before I even had my first kiss, so there's nothing to worry about .
Good! Porn is not healthy and detrimental to the brain! I am also a hypocrite and watch it anyway. Hence, I am a shallow :***:. I have significantly cut down though.. With that said, not everyone is big into kissing, sometimes kissing doesn't do anything for certain people. With regard to sexual attraction, I've never been with a guy, but I know I am sexually attracted to men. For instance, I find your avatar ridiculously attractive. Emotionally, I am into whoever can connect with me. So yes, I think they are two different things.
Wait whut? There are single guys who don't watch porn? Like, if you were getting some regular "nasty nasty" I could understand it. That said, all the respect if you can do that man. And to the person who claimed that porn is unhealthy and detrimental to the brain, I would like to present a counterpoint. Porn is a work of art (!) Well, maybe not a work of art. But if it was detrimental to the brain, I wouldn't have been first in high school, gotten first class honours in my Science Bachelors, and received a PhD in Science before the age of 21. SO RUBBISH! But that's just my professional opinion :dry:
My friends told me this when I came out as lesbian.:dry: And how the fuck do they know their straight if they haven't done it with the same sex?:tantrum: I have not had sex with women but I know I'm lesbian.
Sorry, I didn't think anyone would ever take it that way, detrimental to the brain in regards to sexual attraction and vanity is more in line with what I meant. IE, having an issue with the majority of ugly people and not wanting to sleep with them for relatively minor imperfections. Typically, I've found that out of all the people I knew/know who don't watch porn have had a far more active sex life (the being "single" and dating 10+ different people every month type). Then again, I am sure some people just love to do it all. All the time .
That's fine. But younger readers on the forums will probably take note of what you posted as a sign that watching/reading porn is wrong. And it ain't. If I didn't have porn when I was an adolescent, I probably wouldn't even know I was gay.
Erotic fiction is so much better than porn...... ANYWAY... You have straight people buying this kind of shit for their freaking baby who doesn't even know what a girl is yet but as soon as someone mentions they're not straight suddenly people tell them they can't be sure if they don't have experience... like, what? Also, people never ask straight people with no experience if they're really sure... Why is that, hm?
"Well, how do you know you're straight? And yes, I can have a bad relationship with a girl and still be lesbian, just like you could be in a bad relationship with a boy/girl (depends on the person's gender) and still be straight." <--Is what I would answer if I were in that situation, which I probably will be soon. I mean, I've only come out to my sister so far but when I do it with more people, this question is bound to come up. Hope this helps.
You do not need to force yourself into a relationship to "validate" your homosexuality! Of course being "emotionally" homosexual is enough. You understand yourself better than anyone, and don't let someone say you're not gay enough because you haven't been in relationship.
Wow . I believe that there are a lot of singles who doesn't watch porn . Just saying . And watching porn can be unhealthy if it was excessive . Well, like everything , anything beyond the usual is unhealthy :icon_wink:icon_wink BTW , great achievements so far :eusa_clap Keep going ---------- Post added 15th Aug 2014 at 04:58 PM ---------- LOL . No secrets :icon_wink I started watching porn after i moved for college . I used to watch porn once or twice a week at first , and more and more by time . So i decided to cut it down , and somehow i felt much comfortable and happier in those days that i don't watch porn on them . So i decided to stop watching porn and i managed to do that :eusa_danc
