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So Confuzzled

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by TylerTD, Aug 15, 2014.

  1. TylerTD

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    I left another question here before, but this is starting to annoy me in some ways. :tantrum:
    Basically, It's about my sexual orientation, and I need more guidance. I would comment on the other one, but I think this deserves it's own section.

    Okay, so, I like women, I like the way they look and act and everything BUT sexually. I see myself marrying a woman and having children, but something seems off.
    I also like guys, but the only way I like them is sexually. I don't like gay sex or anything, but If I see another man masturbating or getting a blowjob (by a man or woman) It turns me on.
    I don't see myself dating any guys, and most guys's personalities only lead me to like them as friends.

    The only time I am EVER attracted to a guy is on a porn website where he's masturbating.

    I'm 14 and confused, but I kinda just want this to be a phase, because my brain won't comprehend the information running through my head. :eusa_doh: .

    I want to say it's just the fact that I fantasize that man masturbating is me, but any time I see a woman naked, nothing happens at all. Any time I see a man, I have no interest in them what so ever, and woman are pretty similar, except sometimes I want to date them.

    Maybe just watching Men in porn is good for me, but when I'm actually there in the flesh, Woman will turn me on. But I just need to get this off my chest, if there is no answer, or I should just wait until I'm out of puberty, then tell me so. Any advice helps. :thumbsup:
     
  2. Ivysaur

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    Totally understand where you're coming from.

    Personally, I think that you should ride it out for a bit before fully committing. I'm not one to nitpick labels, but I do think you're having romantic feelings for women whereas you're having sexual feelings for guys. At this point, you should probably study whether or not you're just aesthetically attracted to women or if your attraction towards women and having that familial role is just ingrained in you because of societal norms.
     
  3. TylerTD

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    This helps a bit... I guess I'll look into myself some more and make a decision over the years.
     
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    I would say that you're still sexually attracted to both men and women, yet you are romantically attracted more so to women. Do you see yourself ever making out with a guy? Caressing his hair as he massages your leg? Holding hands as you both watch the sunset from afar on a Floridian beach? Don't just think that sexuality in this case is black or white. You could possibly be considered "bi", yet like men and women in totally different fashions and in certain circumstances, like those that you had mentioned previously.

    From my experience, I don't like certain types of sex with a guy. I get turned off by those. That doesn't mean that I'm any less gayer than the guy two doors down from me who perform every type of sexual exploit with his boyfriend. Just keep that in mind too.
     
  5. TylerTD

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    All the images I see are not in my head, I could never see myself doing those things.

    Also, I know about the the complicated thing that is sexuality, I just want to know what I am, as Everytime I'm in the mood, It's always crossing my mind... Thanks, though :thumbsup:
     
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    I think you would be called a "heteroromantic homosexual" based on what you described, but I think that Ivysaur gave the best advice. Wait it out and get to know yourself better.