I'm straight and attracted to guys. I could never, ever, ever be attracted to a female because of the anatomy, it just isn't the way I roll. However, I do prefer guys who aren't exclusively masculine but also pretty feminine. For example, I'm perfectly fine with makeup on guys as long as it doesn't make them look like a straight-up woman or I can otherwise tell they're a guy. It's hard to explain. It's not really that I'm attracted to guys as much as it is that I am repulsed by women (in a romantic, orientational sense), but I am not asexual. In terms of facial structure, I never know who I will find attractive, it all depends on the person. I guess you could say I'm attracted to guys who are pretty much equal in their display of masculinity and femininity. I don't really like a lot of muscle mass, either. Maybe it's because I am agender that I prefer people who are similar to me and free of the "male"/"female" gender boxes. Based on this, would you consider me to be "straight"? It's okay if you're confused. I confuse myself. :rolle:
Assuming you're basing it off your birth sex, then yes, you fit within the straight definition. I'm homoromantic asexual, AKA simply gay - but I love, love, love effeminate men, and I'm more attracted to them than I am to a masculine guy. It doesn't make you less straight or anything. Just some quality you prefer. No worries.
Thanks, I wasn't "worried" really since I don't place some value on being straight as opposed to any other orientation. I guess it's just like being "pansexual" vs. "bisexual" because I could be attracted to anyone as long as they don't have female anatomy. I guess the only other alternative to that is being attracted to guys. It's just that I feel like it's not they guyness that I'm attracted to. Idk.
Sorry, I use "no worries" really loosely. I guess "no stress" would be a better alternative. And, yeah, I get what you mean. I feel the same way, if I identify as gay, yet would date non-binary people, it's invalidating their gender. You know what I mean? There's not really a label for it, either, but I suppose I can just go as gay with the mentality of "If I fall in love with someone who isn't a guy, oh well."
I know exactly what you mean! If I like a guy who identifies as male as his gender, I do kind of feel like I'm invalidating his gender because that wasn't a prerequisite. It's just that he wasn't a woman anatomically, and had a nice face. It seems like most people expect that when one has a crush on a guy, their "manliness" was a big factor in it. It's not so much that I'm attracted to guys as it is that I'm not attracted to women.
