Recently I had to answer the question “what is your sexuality” on several occasions, which got me thinking that I in fact am not completely sure about my own orientation. Obviously I went with saying I’m gay just because it was the easiest to explain (sorry, don’t mean to be offensive). Tried explaining bisexuality once, to a friend… didn’t go that well. I’ll just go ahead and describe myself and hope that this will be enough for people here to point me in the right direction. - I like boys that look younger (think, 6-7 years younger than me) that are not ripped like WWF wrestlers, lack or take control of their hair (facial or otherwise). I have in fact on several occasions looked longer than I care to admit at boys that are in the “pedo” range… That is not to say that I’m not attracted to older guys but… it’s rare to see an older guy that takes care of himself. Maybe I’m just shallow. Love emo boys. - I like girls that look more boyish regardless of age, with short hair, short stature, less makeup, more down to earth. Like for example, had a huge crush on Geri Halliwell (don’t laugh!). - I do prefer being intimate with a boy but do not (or at least, rarely) see myself doing intercourse. More like hugging, kissing and… err… “Body exploration”, maybe oral? (Sorry for the dump description). - I’d prefer reading a Shounen-ai (google it) manga over watching porn any time of the day, in fact, now that I think about it I’ve never really been into porn that much, find it too graphic. - I am virgin and actually never had a relationship with a girl or boy… never even had my first kiss (forever alone, yeah I know, pathetic). So the question is, what am I? (Please, do skip the “omg pedo” and “omg weird” answers, I’ve already covered them in my own sub consciousness) Thanks! :smilewave
Perhaps you're bi with a preference for guys? You seem to be attracted to androgynous people, which is totally ok, still counts as bi in my book. There are many different ways for other people to express their gender. If you prefer guys, though, and you're more comfortable saying you're gay, that's fine too. It seems like you're more interested in the emotional aspects of a relationship than the sexual aspects. I'm the same way.
Aww this guy sounds like somebody I could relate too. Minus the pedo thing that is pretty much my story in a nutshell. Maybe your just homoromantic? You could be one of those types of gay guys that would like anybody that identifies as male. Seeing how you are not wanting intercourse, that may be great for you.
I agree with Lucaaa, you sound like you may be a bisexual. You preferences generally sound a lot like mine. I tend to prefer toned dudes and ladies that act a bit dude-ish. However, the best advice that I ever heard in regards to figuring things out is that these are just labels (and very general at that). You are not going to fit into any one label perfectly. Thus, you shouldn't worry about identifying as anything until you feel comfortable doing so. Trying to force yourself into a category before you've become comfortable with yourself is just going to add unnecessary stress.
Thanks for the advices given, so in conclusion I’m a pansexual homoromantic bisexual (if I understood correctly). Well this is going to be a pain in the rear to explain to people… Can I just, not classify myself in any one category and when asked, tell people that I like boys and girls (without going into details)? I just feel all this is so… irrelevant, yet people care about stuff like this.
I'd say yes. Saying that you are attracted to boys and girls should be enough. Any more than that is kinda personal. Also, just be okay/know that not everyone is going to completely understand, which can't be helped. Its just like how I (and maybe you) don't understand what its like to only be attracted to one sex/gender. (Also, I've heard arguments that pansexuality and bisexuality are different orientations).
