Proportion of women and men you find attractive

Hmm... Interesting point. When I dated guys I usually found myself into a specific type of guy (short with dark hair and a feminine-ish face) but my desire to pursue a relationship was built purely on our connection/their personality. But with women there are not a ton I'm interested in, but when I am they tend to be of diverse physical types and personalities. I still notice the guys who are my type or guys with whom I click with, but I wind up not wanting to date them for one reason or another; whereas I seem to notice a variety of women.

Does this answer your question kind of?

 

With women, it's easier for me to become attracted, in the romantic and sexual aspect. With men, I'll notice them, but it takes a little bit longer for that 'interest' to become 'attraction', in the romantic sense. Physically, it's about the same with women, in how I notice men.

 

Meshuga.

 

Hmm it's the other way around for me. I rarely find men aesthetically attractive and usually it's actors on tv with perfect hair and good style. With women, I find a lot of women good-looking, even the average looking ones, I can become attracted to them. But with women, it's not only about the looks, it's also about personality, mannerisms, everything really. I guess, because I'm genuinely attracted to women and can develop romantic feelings for them, which I don't develop for guys.

 

The thread subject brought my attention. Actually, I've been thinking about it in the past, this is why I don't want to label myself - out of 10 people I like, 9 of them are men. But there's always this 1 women I could think of being together with. I mean, sexually, I'm attracted to men mostly. But I don't say no to women.

I guess it's our human nature, we are what we are, and labels are not meant for humans.

 

I find the idea of girls who know their way around a controller/gaming console/gaming pc/video game very attractive. Of course, the guys I like must also like video games.

 

As far as personality goes I will love anybody who can put up with my crazy ass.
Hmm for a fem girl I like em with nice tig ol bitties and I prefer them white but hell if I am horny enough, I will just bang her anyway. As for t-guys... yeah they has to be smoking hot.

 

I can notice a guy is handsome but I 'm not attracted to them or find them attractive I just think what a handsome man or a nice looking guy . With women I'm attracted to them not just thinking their a beautiful but that I want to be with them and yes have sex with them .
Hope this helps

 

I can notice men are good looking without a sexual feeling. I honestly think I notice women far less because I actually have a sexual feeling for them and therefore I'm picky and want to know their character before the attraction becomes 'real'.

 

I think men are attractive, and have this weird envy-appreciation thing every time I see a good-looking guy, and I have developed feelings for men, however, I have never felt more than a vague curiosity in sexual relationships with men. Sort of: "I find you attractive, I have romantic feelings for you, but don't kiss me." I think that's a bit strange?

Women, however, are wonderful. I find them sexually, aesthetically, and emotionally pleasant.

But personality is important - I mean, I'm happy competing in a aggressive game of Halo, or arguing about the X-Men. I like geeks :3

(Er, I feel like it's important to note I'm talking about sex and not gender.)

 

I find like... 40% of women my age attractive. I find like 2% of men my age attractive.

 

This has been shifting lately. More and more often, I look at a woman and think, "I love the way she walks" or "I love her sense of style, how she is dressed" rather than, "I would like to sleep with her". But even when I do feel attracted, I still can't get off on them. I would not bore you all yet again with this issue, but the question has been asked. As for guys, well it's a bit different; if I find them cute, I fantasize about what it would be like to sleep with them. Well, maybe 'sleep' is the totally wrong word here. Considering I've essentially waited for a about 30 years to fulfill this desire, my first boyfriend is unlikely to get any sleep at all when he stays over. Although we will probably snuggle quite a lot.

Anyway, proportions: I find about 3 in ten women of my age group (or on the younger side of it) attractive, and about 1 in ten men of my age group (or on the younger side of it) attractive. But my desire for that one guy is stronger than for the three women. Confusing, no? I've been living with this for months.

 

I think it's about equal. In the last 5 years I've had two female crushes and two male ones. In both cases I didn't feel a strong physical attraction, but I never really have. I have sexual fantasies, just not about the people I'm attracted to. Mine are a lot more vague and about emotions.

 

If we are talking about purely aesthetic attraction I notice women more than men. I just find that women are... I dunno, prettier? The shape of their bodies, the way they dress, it's generally just more appealing than guys to me. I do see guys who attract my attention sometimes, too, if anything the "type" that grabs me is the cute nerd boy. A lot of the time people will point out a man that's supposed to be attractive and I can look at him and think "Yes, he sure is objectively handsome." And maybe I'd even notice him because he is stand-out pretty, but it seems a lot rarer that it happens with men vs. the amount of times it happens with women.

As far as sexual attraction, I'm not totally sure on that, but I would hazard a guess that you're just not going to be sexually attracted to as many people as you find aesthetically attracted so if you are weighing sexual attraction for one gender against aesthetic attraction for the other you may be skewing the results a bit.

 

I'm very much the same way. I can look at most women all day (probably 8/10 of them I see), but there's not much (if any) desire to go to bed with them. With guys it's the opposite, I only like a very few select ones I see, but when I do... I get into them so quickly and so badly that I just wanna bend over for them on the spot Lmao

 

The men I find attractive are very feminine, with girly faces, long hair and slim hairless bodies.

And I only like guys like that.


Among that type, I especially love girlish thighs, cute round/heart shaped faces and large eyes

 

"Ok, interesting. This seems just like my experience and my reasoning. I want to hear more, but I don't know what to ask... Did you ever wonder if noticing men meant you were attracted to them given being attracted to relatively few women?"

Not really. I think my capability to find all male bodies attractive has more to do with my curiosity of what it would be like to have a male body and imagining said guy being myself. I also think part of finding guys good looking is no different than me finding a baby or a cat to look attractive- but I never questioned if I was a pedophile or a zoophile.

Part of my reason why I don't find very many women attractive is
1) Women have more pressure to make themselves look attractive and perfect, so even male porn stars look slightly more natural than women do
and
2) I'm afraid to get close and I don't like feeling sexual attraction because of what I think is due to repressing my sexuality since I've been hurt and dealt with heterosexist crap by the women I had crushes on (and some of them were even queer). So my attraction now is extremely cautious and I don't develop crushes on anyone unless I know they follow my lifestyle and belief system first (which I think protects me from getting close and attached to what could be another let-down).
In other words, admitting and admiring aesthetic attraction to men is easier and more common for me since I know It'll never be sexual or romantic and therefore I don't have to worry about becoming close and wanting more.