Hi all, As background, I started seriously questioning my sexuality almost 6 months ago now. For a while I was stressing out about choosing a label and needing to decide what I am. I think, based on the evidence, it is fair to say that I am not straight. However, I do not know if this means I am bi or lesbian (and there is still a part of me that wants to say "no, it can't be! of course you are straight" and delete this whole post, but I won't this time!). Anyway, I decided to stop stressing out and just try to meet more people to see what happens. But now I am getting signs of interest from men, and it is making me even more confused. On the one hand, I do not want to date men at all right now. On the other hand, the part of me that is in denial/unsure is telling me to do it anyway and maybe it will be different this time. But I also feel like it wouldn't be fair for me to date men right now when I am so unsure. But then by that logic it would also be unfair for me to try to date girls too, because even though I like the idea of dating girls, that's not the same as real life, so I still can't be sure. And in order to meet a girl, I would have to come out, which I have so far not been ready to do. So the problem is: I feel like I need experience to know my sexuality for sure, but on the other hand I feel like I need to know my sexuality for sure before I can look for any experience...how can I get out of this circle? :help:
Well if you want to date girls and not guys you should date girls. You will need to come out to do this. I don't know how long you've been questioning, but you should become sure/comfortable with time. And don't always wait fit the perfect opportunity because you'll just sit there waiting fit it always thinking it could be a little bit better and you'll be stuck in another loop. Above all else, just make sure you're happy and don't worry too much, which I am very guilty of. Just be yourself.
