gay, and feel uncomfortable around girls

I have the same problem, i don't have anything against girls plus I have cousin and family who are girls of course.But when its girls im not related too i just get really uncomfortable, even hostile and adverse to them and i don't want to be. I think it has to do with me being so comfortable, close and sexually attracted to boys that i see females as aliens.

 

Same problem here, but mines more of a 'your going to steal my man with ur beehind' kind of feel. I don't get this feeling around any of my friends tho, and they're all girls

 

Me too! As a a male who is attracted to men i sometimes feel like i'm competing with women for male attention. When a girls says hi to or talks to a cute a guy i like i get REALLY jealous because i can't know if the guy is gay or not so until i know for sure that he is straight i will have a telephatic beef with those girls.

 

Idk just a theory here,
Straight guys tend to be comfortable around girls they dont know...because they are only sexually attracted to girls but a lot of straight guys arent too comfortable around other men, especially ones they view as competition
You are comfortable around guys...who you are sexually attracted to. So maybe that has something to do with it?
almost all of my friends are girls and i dont like talking to guys because i like some of them...

 

I am uncomfortable around guys who are gay or who i think are gay because I'm speculating whether they are really gay and if they like me as i don't want to embarrass myself infront of them and i want to get close and impress them. But i have no problem around for sure straight guys because even if they are attractive to me their straightness kills my attraction to them so im not tense around them. I have so little female contact outside relatives that i have nothing much to say about them.

 

Unknown Girl here lol

I can relate to the flip side of this. when I was little I had both guy and girl friends. but like come high school, after a certain point if I didn't already know the guy they were pretty much aliens to me too.

I like to look at a guy from the torso up but I'm not sexually attracted them. but I always wondered if that's why I was uncomfortable, aside from the fact that they are so foreign to me.

 

I'm the same around men.. and I know why. I don't want them to think i'm straight or think I like them. Because I LOVE women. And being a ''cute'' feminine lesbian men think i'm like some super straight penis lover. I'm not. I like girls.. and for them to think I like guys kind of pisses me off. Especially when i'm too scared to tell them the truth in my town because it's small and the word would get around fast.

I have a disgusting, nasty girl I went to school with i'd rather not hear from these days.. though she's fat and looks like a prostitute compared to me I still have feelings and would rather not get attacked for liking women. She only hated me because I was kind of shy in primary school! I had friends but she was some work! I'd hit her if she started with me again.

Don't worry you're not alone. Alot of Lesbians feel the same around guys.

 

I actually feel like that sometimes around girls I don't know. It could be something unconscious, like since they are competition we unconsciously feel threaten by them and it sort of reflects as discomfort? That's just a theory here hahaha

But yeah, I do understand you. Sometimes, when I see one looking at me, I think that maybe they are evaluating me and thinking "this guy is not competition" hahaha I must have a very big imagination, but that's how I feel their gaze to mean sometimes.

 

Yeah I have no adverse reactions when guys look at me but when girls look at me in like " who she thinks she's staring at!"

 

Hahaha yeah! I'm totally different when guys are looking at me, I'm always checking them out if they do that, and if I like how he looks I smile like an idiot.

 

I've had men do this. If only they knew. I can't really stand it when guys check me out.

 

Ohmygod! I'm not alone! I feel so damn awkward around girls and it's kinda making me angry. I'm just like Brain. Brain what Ru doin. Brain staph! I'm not interested!

 

I've contemplated this for a while and I'm still not sure; was it my apprehension and nervousness around girls that eventually compelled me to find solace in the company of other guys.. or was it my attraction to guys that made me nervous around girls..I still don't know which came first..Also, when I am talking to a girl, especially someone who I don't know, I feel as though others are judging me for 'flirting' with her and I feel like I have to try to be exceptionally careful with my eyes lol - I always feel like saying - its okay everyone, I'm not flirting with her, I am GAY. But, naturally, I can't do that haha

 

While i do find girls pretty, the majority of the celebrities and singers I follow on social media are female, i see them in a music video and stuff and say they are so pretty and that dress looks great, She's a godess etc but i just have feeling of apprehension and adversity when im around females in real life.

 

I can definitely admire a woman's beauty. I love the woman features and the way they carry themselves, they are just gorgeous. I always say "it's too bad I'm completely gay and not bisexual" because there are a lot of beautiful women out there and here I am having a difficult time looking for an attractive gay or bi guy that likes me back when all those girls exist and I feel nothing for them.

 

Exactly I like female beauty and style but I'm unfortunately not attracted to them. I would say she looks today the same way I'd say a butterfly flower or a painting was pretty.

 

Completely the same here Chrome :lol: Unfortunate indeed.