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a little help my friends

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by confusedlost, Oct 6, 2014.

  1. confusedlost

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    I'm almost sure I'm gay I find guys attractive but I can't seem to get off to them I tried gay pen but nothing(I also heard that's not a good way to know) I tried still images and I did but it took a lot of mental AND physical concentration to fish the job and finally I tried imagination and boom NOTHING until I brought in the girls and boom good the dynamite do think I trained myself to only ejaculate to women or what's the deal
     
  2. Starfleet

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    Hi. It might just be guilt. Hey, if you think guys are hot, Nopony here will judge you. :slight_smile:

    Try to relax about it though. It won't be good if you are forcing yourself. :slight_smile:
     
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    I struggle with this a lot as well. I don't have the answer yet. My sense is that it's a multi-step process: accepting that you are gay will eventually lead to a greater comfort with gay people, and that may lead to a relationship where you feel comfortable exploring that aspect of your sexuality.

    I wrote a very long post about my early experiences which may be of interest: http://emptyclosets.com/forum/lgbt-later-life/154050-how-i-got-here-[-very-long-post].html
     
  4. confusedlost

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    thanks and yea im just taking my time instead of rushing through it