Hello everyone! I come here in search of some reassurance or advice on my orientation. I should start by stating that I am positive that I am not straight. The attraction to the same sex has been eminent since middle school (now a junior in high school). Yet, Every so often I find a girl whom I'm attracted to in the romantic sense. Now you see the conundrum and my affliction. So any advise or thoughts are highly appreciated towards the matter. Thanks again!
Romantic and sexual orientation are not the same thing, and it is perfectly normal for them not to match up. You could be biromantic homosexual, but it is up to you to decide how to identify.
Could you describe your romantic feelings toward a woman? Is it the same or different from the ones you have with men? I think it is okay to have deep loving feelings for someone of the opposite sex when gay. I would just consider that as someone you care for deeply just like best friends care for one another deeply. If that is what you mean by romantic. But, i still wonder how you would describe it and how it compares to romantic feelings toward men. Hope to hear that description and hope i helped a tad.
Sounds similar to me, actually. Only difference is that I'm 100% confused of my sexuality. The feelings I had towards my ex-girlfriend (romantic/emotional) ARE NOT the same as the older men that I desire (which is sexually). I was groped by older men, if that has any play to it. No father figure to look up to (I always argue with him). I think it's worthy to mention that sexual attraction can come from the emotional aspect of the relationship, no? When I was with my ex, everything felt so good, like it was meant to be (despite the fact that we broke up; that's another story lol). I have no attraction towards guys my age though which is odd with all things considered. LTR with guys in general aren't a possibility for me (I don't see it working out, given the differences in age and whatnot). It actually seems a bit weird in the "loving" sense, but sexually it doesn't . Women, on the other hand, open a wide range of possibilities for me. Someone correct me if I'm wrong, but gay people either don't feel anything towards female parts, or they just find it straight up disgusting. Me? I feel VERY aroused when I see the vagina, but I think that if I'm ever to get that far, I would have to invest my time into the love of my life. For males I'm not so sure because my fantasy of groping older men seems more of a "porno in paradise" than a reality. I should also mention that I'm quite lazy.
Thanks to all three of you! I thought about your replies and my Romantic feelings towards the opposite sex is simply that, romantic in lieu of sexual. on the other hand, my feelings towards guys are both romantic and sexual.
Sexuality is not a "Yes/No" sort of thing it's more of a "Yes/No/Maybe/Only on Fridays" sort of thing. You may have seen some members on here have a "Kinsley [#]" on their orientation, and basically the Kinsley scale is measuring how gay you are. It ranges from strictly heterosexual to equal preference to strictly homosexual, and it sounds like you are homosexual with slight interest in the opposite sex. To be honest, it sounds like you already knew the answer! You know that you like the same sex for the most part with certain exceptions, it really is as simple as that! ^^
I don't think anyone is completely gay or straight, so its best to find where you fit on the spectrum. I think the best label for you would be homo-flexible. It means you are mainly attracted to the same-sex but occasionally attracted to the opposite-sex. It is the label I identify myself with, because I found bisexual and homosexual didn't fit. The reason for this is that I find women more physically attractive and emotionally connect with them better. However, because I have a more masculine personality, I generally get on better with men and develop strong friendships with them, sometimes feelings for them.
