Hey, I'm 20 years old and have always considered myself straight. I like girls both physically and romantically and have sex with 18 of them. I have never experimented with guys, but I find myself fantasizing about it a lot recently. I'm not really attracted to guys, except the idea of a sweaty chiseled, muscly guy holding me sounds really hot. I have tried ass play and I like it, I just don't know how much I'd like taking a full dick or fucking a guy in the ass. Kissing a guy though seems really gross to me. I have never had any crushes on guys before, whereas girls I find myself falling head over heels for a lot. Also gay porn really turns me on. I'm really thinking about experimenting, and just kinda want some insight. How did you first go about it? What are some stories? Does this seem like gay behavior, or just normal homoerotic fanaticism? Anything helps. Thanks.
If you think kissing guys is gross I don't think experimenting with a guy is a good idea also I suggest to stop watching porn and see if you feel the same way without it . Also cut masturbation too and go cold turkey for a few months .
There ARE some straight guys that enjoy anal play... and it wouldn't be good to just think of other men as sexual toys, IMO.
I think it is just fantacising and it will come to nothing at all. It is just thinking about taboo subjects. You probably wont follow up on them
I think it is just fantacising and it will come to nothing at all. It is just thinking about taboo subjects. You probably wont follow up on them
There is nothing wrong with experimenting. Keep in mind not every gay relationship or sexual meetup has good old anal going on. People can and do plenty of other stuff without approaching anal - it isn't for everyone.
Other guys aren't just sexual objects. If you wouldn't kiss a guy, it's probably not a wise idea to experiment with them, it could end pretty badly and you might offend the other guy. At the end of the day it's your choice, just be careful. xx
Gay guys have feelings an emotions to. It sounds to me you just want a little bit of fun, so A) find someone like minded who won't be hurt by it and B) play it safe, condoms and the like. Have fun, but don't hurt someone to get it.
I've only ever kissed a guy before (like full make out session) but I can't imagine that it's much different from kissing a girl.
There are plenty of hookup sites out there, and you can be blunt and say you want mutual masturbation, hand jobs, oral, anal play, whatever. You can be blunt and say you don't want anal. It's your call entirely. I'm not suggesting or dissuading you from doing so. Just be careful and make sure all parties involved know what you want, and what you don't want.
I have been so infatuated by the idea of giving head and getting fucked in the ass as well as the other foreplay like kissing and the like. I also feel like i really need to experiment with both sexes to really know for sure if i'm bisexual or not.
Not so sure i'd use a hookup site though, those sites weird me out and most of the time they are full of spammers anyway.
As others have said, if you want to experiment, go for it. There are plenty of guys who will have no problem at all just having a bit of fun and the whole 'treating them as objects' won't matter one bit to them. That said, you should be honest about what you're looking to do (experiment) and what your boundaries are (don't think you're into kissing, not sure about anal, etc.). If you are looking at doing something with a guy, arrange to meet in a public place first and just talk and get to know each other a bit so you can get a read on whether you get any bad vibes from him and/or whether or not he's someone you think you'd like to mess around with. An important factor is that this guy be willing to take things slow, respect your boundaries, and actually be concerned that you're having a good time, not just using your for their pleasure alone. They may also want to get a read on you to determine you're someone they want to mess around with and that you aren't likely to freak out in mid-stream and start trying to punch them or something. You should also probably discuss some basic ground rules they are willing to follow, like stopping if you want to stop (either that activity or entirely). Beyond that, if it comes down to it arrange a time and place where you can take your time and not have to worry about being interrupted and where you are comfortable. Bring your own condoms and lube, just in case. And, if possible, maybe start out with more basic stuff and then work up. Mutual masturbation, body contact, oral, and then maybe work up to anal if you feel up to it, and maybe over several sessions if possible. Or maybe this happens with different guys as your experience level increases. Lots of guys either aren't into anal or don't care enough about it to be much bothered if you don't want to do it. Plenty of other fun stuff to do, after all. As an alternative to the above, and if you live in/near a large urban area, you might see if there is a local jack-off club you could check out. The larger cities have them, and the bigger ones have their own websites (and T-shirts and coffee mugs for all I know). The idea is to have fun with other guys while following a set of rules to ensure safe sex. So you can masturbate together, or engage in mutual, but most everything else is a no-no. The larger groups will have their rules posted on the website. No promises as to what type of guys will be there, but this sort of thing might be another way for you to start to explore your urges in a limited and controlled manner where you know what the rules are before venturing into deeper waters. Hope this helps, Todd
