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Can you choose if you're Bisexual?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by MouseKeeper, Nov 2, 2014.

  1. MouseKeeper

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    I keep assuming I can choose and nobody corrects me. I hate making assumptions because everytime I do, I always find out later that I've been embarrassing myself for weeks, months or even years.

    Anyway, so I feel as though, because I'm Bi, I can choose which sex I decide to start a romantic relationship with, either women or other men. I currently have a girlfriend and it's more of a romantic relationship than sexual. Am I complaining? Nope.

    But I feel as though if me and her were to split, I'd want to give other men a try. I know I can't choose who I am attracted to, but because I'm attracted to both biological sexes, I feel as though I CAN decide. Is this possible if you're Bi, or is that another myth about the LGBT community? Thanks a bunch.
     
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    can you chose to be Bi? No. you can chose to stay with one gender or another but if you ignor/burry the other attraction you burry a large part of yourself and that isnt healthy at all, I know this first hand
     
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    I'm assuming that the OP's question is:

    Assuming he's bisexual, can he choose who he will date?

    There is (as of yet) no Board of Sexuality that mandates who you can be with. If you want to date a woman, and there's a woman who wants to date you, then you can do that. If after breaking up with her, you want to date a man (and there's a man who wants to date you), you can do that.

    What, in your (OP) mind, would or should prevent this?
     
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    Can you choose to be bi? No.
    Can you choose who you date/make a move on? Yes.
     
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    Can you choose if your bisexual No
    can you choose which sex you prefer to date if your bisexual yes

    Can you choose how you identify yes but anyone can really who isn't bisexual either .
     
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    You can't control who you feel attracted to, but you can control whether or not you act on those attractions. Therefore, if you're bisexual, you can kind of "choose" whether you want to acknowledge it or not by choosing with whom you choose to be in a relationship.
     
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    I would answer, but HM03 and stocking and also Swimscotty have all answered the question rather perfectly, so I would be just repeating what has been said already.
     
  8. MouseKeeper

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    Absolutely nothing. I just needed to be sure that I've been correct. I hate assuming things based on experience and then find out that I was flat out wrong. Since nobody was correcting or confirming, I wasn't 100% sure.
     
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    Lol i feel like board of sexuality should be a band name.