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Still completly confused. Gay, Straight, Asexual, Trans !?

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  1. Fusion

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    Hey, so my story is kind of strange:

    In my teen years i only mastubated to woman and they really aroused me. Also in real life. I was always checking out girls. Then came the porn time and i watched alot of porn. Even more (more times daily i masturbated) when fast internet was out. So i got "bored" of straight porns. I figured out that I also got aroused by gay porn and it was more exciting. So i watched gay porn but also straight porn sometimes. Then I watched Domina porn. Thinking about being the one who gets fucked. And at first i found it really disgusting to look at it but then i kind of got hooked on transexual porn. So thats where i was at the end of my porn career.

    I have to say that i was a complete shy kid with social anxiety till i was 24, when i went to canada for a year to face my shyness and change my life. After this i decided to talk to woman and try to figure out my real sexuality. Since im a good looking guy i had some chances and i normaly get semi-errections when i talk to attractive girls. but as soon as it gets further and we land in bed i get pretty quickly bored by what is going on and i dont get a real hard one.

    At the same time i had some experiences with transexual "woman" and that was really exciting to me. So the first times i got a real hard-on and i could have sex with them activly.

    Then I thought that it might come from my heavy porn consume. So i decided to dont watch porn and masturbate for 90 days. Ok, after I finished I talked to a girl to which i was attracted (just by the looks) and i got a semi-errection just by talking to her. but as soon as it went further and she wanted to sleep with me, there it was again..no arousel and no hard-on

    I also had the chance to have sex with a guy sometimes but i never really tried it, because i can tell if a man is good looking in real life but i never REALLY felt the urge to kiss a man or get close to one.

    So now im back at watching tranny porn again and think about going to tranny hookers again.

    So what do you guys think about my wired case of sexual confusion :grin: ? And what would you do in my position ?

    Thanks for the advice,
    Fusion
     
    #1 Fusion, Nov 4, 2014
  2. iiimee

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    Hmm, this all depends. Do you like gay men, or would you only date transexuals that are mtf? You are not pansexual for sure, but gay doesn't seem to quite fit. You could either be straight or bisexual, maybe leaning toward guys? In order to answer this, I think you have to answer this question first-
    Why are you attracted to transgender women? Is it because they're somewhat male, or is it just it's different and you some fetish for it? I won't judge you either way, but if you like them because of their male pieces, then you could be bisexual.
    I'm sorry I couldn't help much, but I don't know your story very well!
     
    #2 iiimee, Nov 4, 2014
  3. Fusion

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    The thing is, that I really like some parts of a womans body (big breast or a nice female ass) but not as much as if it would give me a full errection when i get intimate with a girl. Im also really turned on by an errected penis but not really by the rest of a male body. And also emotional females turn me on way more than men do. Strange right ?

    And dont get me wrong. Im not in the age anymore that i try to convince myself that im straight. I would totaly be fine with just being gay and therefore have some clarity in my sexuality
     
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    Hi Fusion,

    Wow. I'm new here and I just posted a message which is very similar to yours. Your post describes my situation almost perfectly.

    I can't help you because I seem to have all the same questions as you but maybe you will agree with me when I say it's nice to know that there are others in a very similar position.

    Hopefully someone can provide useful insight on either of our posts.
     
    #4 Confuseddude, Nov 6, 2014
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    I would say bisexual, potentially gay. The only reason I would suggest gay is because I used to be emotionally attracted to women and I used to (and still do) love breasts and butt on women. Nowadays I just love the look of them, not because I wanna be intimate. I just love pretty ladies hehe :slight_smile: I actually had to force myself to watch men on youtube who were in relationships, and see how they interacted to even become familiar with gay emotional connections. And once I saw it, I was hooked. I actually found my feelings and desire to be with a man completely ended up overshadowing any feelings I had for women, I think it was more so admiration towards women rather than wanting to date or have sex with them.

    Also, regarding porn. I used to be disgusted by the look and thought of men having anal, until I got myself used to it. I used to actually watch straight porn, but look at the male's penis the entire time lmao. For me I think the issue was internalized homophobia, could that be a potential "cock-blocker" for you? Or is that not an issue?
     
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  6. Fusion

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    Yes, that could be true. What would you do in my position ? Would you just try to have sex with a guy even if you dont really want to or continue to look for sex adventures with transsexuell prostitutes or just dont waste any thought on sex and focus instead on work ? (I want to start a serious online business next year)
     
    #6 Fusion, Nov 8, 2014
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    In terms of porn, I got bored of lesbian porn. It went on to straight porn, and now exclusively to gay porn.

    Basically, these are the stages of porn:
    Let's be honest guys: sexual attraction isn't the big picture here, it's whether you can form a relationship with that person or not. What good is sex if you can't like your partner for who they are? Might as well go to clubs and have sex with anyone you want.
     
    #7 Jax12, Nov 8, 2014
  8. Fusion

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    Yes, you are right. I had the chance to have a threesome with a man the other day but i didnt really felt like doing it. There are guys i think about in a way like they are attractive but i never really think that i want to have sex with them. But also, how can a relationship work, if you dont have sex. I think your partner will get frustrated after a while. Im not really sure how i can bring some clearity into this whole thing
     
    #8 Fusion, Nov 12, 2014
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