Gay men - when did you know

Well, I guess I knew when I was 19. Looking back, I should have known when I was quite a bit younger.

 

I had some minimal signs when I was 10/11. I started to find that I liked the appearance of dominant male teachers (the big guys). Not guys my age though, which is quite weird. I had occasional crushes to girls, but legit crushes only came when I got to know her.

For a while I have been essentially forcing the label on myself that I am 100% gay. I can't rule that out yet because physical attraction isn't everything. If I can't develop a connection with guys whom I find physically attracting, then they are not the ones for me. It's the same with females.

It's actually the same with all relationships. Sex is good with anyone who you find physically appealing, but if you hate people that are drama queens, and find out that the person you had sex with is a drama queen, I guess you're only left with one option.

One thing that I will strongly advise though, is that since you are questioning yourself, don't use pornography as an indicator for whom you like. I've done this and it's becoming increasingly difficult for me to come to a conclusion on my orientation.

In the beginning, I use to watch girls playing with themselves, which led to straight porn, and now a majority of the time, it's gay porn. I remember when girls themselves were actually appealing, but now I can't even look at people as individuals anymore, because now I'm always obsessed with these sexual thoughts that I have over older men. I remember when I liked girls, now I feel as if my attraction towards them is fading. I can confidently, but not proudly say that gay porn has become an obsession for me, and a lot of times I feel guilty for it, but my mine craves the dopamine.

 

I probably first knew in 3rd grade, but it wasn't until middle school I didn't think anything about it. Around 6th-8th is when I realized I wasn't like other guys my age. My classmates talked about sex, and girls, but I could never relate to it. (And still don't, hahaha)

 

well, i know that im not completely gay, but i still have an attraction to same sex males.
i am already quite young, but i guess i knew about my romantic attraction to guys in kindergarten. i always dressed up in a light blue dress and blue heels(guess i knew about m y gender too) and played the woman, and was married to a guy classmate. after that, i really didnt think about it again until 6th grade. my class was on a field trip, and we had to dance, and i realized that the thing i most wanted was to fall into the embrace of my guy crush, and just let him rock me. i went crazy, started swearing every other word that night (i hadnt ever swore before that night) and started kicking and throwing things. not one of my finest hours. denial and anger all wrapped into one pretty package. then i slowly started to piece my feelings together, and, as timed swooshed by, i began to accept myself. thats my story. sorry its so long.

 

@above that's a great story haha.

My personal belief is that if you are gay, then a future with a guy would be of great interest to you. It's obviously not that black and white, but an answer like that would give you some insight on how that may apply to you.

 

Since a young age I knew I was slightly different to all the other kids and always dressed differently and was interested in unusual things when compared to the kids around me. I was never really bothered about my orientation and relationships I had a few in primary school between 8-11 years of age but they weren't really committed relationships and more just awkwardly close friends. I always admired other grown men around me and liked their stubble beards and mature look and hoped that I would go up to be like that one day but soon it had become mor than that. Not just admiring and liking men but actually loving them. I would watch porn but be more focused on the guy and when walking through town, instantly pick up on hot guys rather then girls around me! I didn't really want to be gay because of being bullied and judged but have recently come to terms with myself and considered myself "gay". I haven't come out to anyone yet mainly because I don't want roomers to spread round (high) school or my parents making it really awkward to talk about it or be around them although I have considered telling a friend. I'm just scared!

 

I knew when I had a crush on a gay co-worker this summer. I had at least some idea I liked guys before that that I had held in the back of my mind for about a year. In time I came to realize that I'm not interested whatsoever in vaginas. Frankly they're kinda gross. Penises are a big yes. I'm also not really into the idea of having the active role in sex, but I would do it if that's what would please my partner. The female body is definitely beautiful, and I appreciate a woman's beauty just not in a sexual way. Most guys are utterly repulsive however; Men are generally dirty and disgusting and they have bad hygiene and terrible fashion-sense if any. Most of the guys I like are flamboyantly feminine gay men, and gays tend to dress better and take better care of their bodies.

 

I first knew I was in sixth grade. In elementary school I would carry some of my sisters rings around to school in case I wanted to propose to a girl. I was convinced If I didn't get a good one now I'd be stuck with the leftovers...

Then one day I was at my sisters soccer game and another team came off the field and I guy smiled at me and BAM. My heart leaped and I knew, but spent the next five years pretending I wasn't sure; but I knew.