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Lesbian confusion.

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Izobella, Nov 9, 2014.

  1. Izobella

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    I have been trying to come to total terms with myself and through letting go of what people will think and how I feel in different relationships... I think I am a lesbian. I would only want to be with women and I would not like to be in a relationship or have sex with guys, etc, but is it weird to still think they are sexy/attractive?
     
  2. seeking

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    In my opinion i don't think it's weird to know when someone is very good looking or not. You still have eyes and you still have a sense of what is attractive or not.

    So nah you still have a sense of what beauty is.

    I can tell when a man is very attractive and good looking, but i wouldn't want to sleep with him nor would i enjoy sleeping with him.
     
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    No it's not weird at all. There are some guys at my school that I think are attractive but that doesn't mean I want to do anything with them. Hope this helps.
     
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    I agree with both seeking and poetofdarkness considering I've had the same experience as you. I can still tell when people are attractive but I only want to be sexual and in a relationship with girls.
     
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    No it's not werid you allowed to think a guy is good lookng without wanting to be with them and marry them.
     
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    Exactly this! It's not weird at all.

    Finding someone attractive doesn't necessarly mean you're (sexualy) attracted.
    I can admit it when I see a good looking guy, but I don't want to do anything with him.
     
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    i think its a lil weird
     
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    I also feel the same way and I sometimes wonder if it's because I am hoping to feel something for a boy. I'm not really sure what to make of it but I don't think you should discredit yourself as a lesbian just because you think males are visually attractive.
     
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    You can still appreciate beautiful artwork, even if you are not buying!
     
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    This.
    Some men are attractive people, and one can think "what beautiful hair that chap has", without wanting to jump into his arms.

    Although Emily1 has a point, that you should think about whether it is a desire to want to be with a guy. I am in the early stages of coming out (and you are still working through stuff too), so some of the things you are feeling may change or be fluctuating. It is a big adjustment sometimes in your own head, if you were not expecting it. I am trying not to be too hard on myself, and I do not think you should be either whilst you work stuff out.

    For example, when I was younger I had a big thing for Richard Armitage. And yes I still think he is an attractive and sexy man, but I have no desire or fantasy to turn ´sexy´ into ´sexual´. If I saw him in the street I might be like ´yes what a handsome chap´but I would not buy his Christmas calendar (should he have one), for example, to stare at his body. And yes I believe you can see if someone else has sexy qualities without being attracted to them yourself and certainly without wanting to have sexual contact with them.
     
  11. Melanie

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    Not at all weird! I have guy friends that I think are totally hot, but they just dont do it for me.