Hi guys, I've come to the realization I am gay, but there is an issue. I am not sexually attracted to men, I'm more sexually attracted to women, however I am romantically and possibly want to spend the rest of my life with another man. What does one call this?
Sounds similar to me. I find women more attractive for the 90%, but men for the other 10%. However I find I relate to women better, but naturally bond and flirt to men more. Ideally I'd marry a man, as scary as it kinda sounds to me xD I identify as bi for now, with a sort of lean to men, but a sort of lean to women. If I knew how to describe it better I would. Sorry I couldn't help =[
labels are narrow. people are broad. I think to many people want a label to feel included,or justified. Sort of like, ah ha, I belong to this club. Just accept that you are different, and go with the flow. Find what makes you happy and complete.
Instead of adopting some unrecognized label... go with what Kindy14 is saying and don't worry about a label. More than likely, you are still going through the process of coming to terms with, and understanding yourself. It is very possible -- I've seen it dozens or maybe 100+ times on EC by now -- that as you become more comfortable with the idea of being gay and being in a relationship with a guy, your arousal and excitement about being sexual with a guy will begin to take over, and you'll find that you really do have attraction there. But even if that's dead wrong, giving it time to get a more clear understanding will help you in the long run, and I'm pretty confident that some sort of clarity will come to you.
I have a friend who has told me that he is more emotionally attracted to women, but sexually attracted to men. So this is something I've definitely seen before. I'm not sure what to call it. But I think it's completely okay.
Technically speaking I'd call you a bisexual homoromantic maybe? But I wouldn't worry about it too much. Romantic and sexual interests can change. I say go with your gut. Queer may be a good general term for ya though, if you just really want to be in a "club"
