alright for a good 6 months now I have been considering the fact that I could be gay but at the same time I had a girlfriend that I know I love. But it feels more like a companionship. And with guys I'm more comfortable. HELP I'm not even sure.
You could be bisexual. There are different levels of attraction: romantic, physical, and sexual. Of course I need a bit more info and only you can know what you identify with, but it kinda sounds that you may be romantically inclined towards girls and more sexually inclined towards guys. It's like that with me. I'm more sexually inclined towards girls and romantically to guys. Physically for both haha! XD
I think Young Blood is right, liking men and women isn't mutually exclusive, and there are different sorts of attraction. You say you're more 'comfortable' with guys, but are you attracted to them - romantically or sexually? How do you feel about women? You say you loved your girlfriend, what made it feel more like companionship? Whatever the answer to these questions, don't freak out! (*hug*) Don't put pressure on yourself to understand it all straight away, these things take time. I'm a firm believer in following your heart towards whatever, and whoever, makes you happy. It's a good foundation to start from!
thanks guys I'll just wait it out it and see what happens, when I say I'm more comfortable with guys it means that I can get close to them and understand them more but also in a physical way I think that's what young blood is saying but again thanks XD
For me, I like hanging out with guys since we have a lot in common interests, like video games. In terms of friends, I have a lot of guy friends compared to girls. In addition, I find it easier to be friends with guys than girls. When it comes to physical attraction, I am not attracted to them (let alone guys my age). My physical attraction is in older men, you know, the big macho hairy guys. I have absolutely NO idea why I'm attracted to such an exclusive group, but when it comes to the real world (when I'm in the gym, for example), I can't help but to admire their arms, legs, chest, etc because of how good it looks. Lately I've been noticing that I get these sexual thoughts about girls my age because I've taken a new stance on what porn means to me. When it comes to porn, it's pretty much been the big macho hairy guys only. If there's a girl that gets me off too, and I imagine I'm the guy doing her. There might be a part of me that desires to be those type of men (dominant, assertive, etc) because in the real world, I'm a very shy guy. Maybe this "admiration" somehow manifested into obsession. I talked to my psychologist about this and she says it is possible, but won't rule out that it's the only reason. So what does this mean? Porn is a terrible indicator of your sexual orientation, because it disregards the whole aspect of a relationship between two people.
thank you Jax12 I think I'm going through something similar to what you are but I'm more attracted to guys my age or 2 or 3 years younger or really cute guys the kind that you can just fall into their eyes. unlike you tho I have found I have more girl friends than boy friends.
Yeah that's also fine. I guess it just takes time for people like you and me to find out what we truly are.
