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Not sure if I'm gay or not.

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by stepp5150, Nov 13, 2014.

  1. stepp5150

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    I'm 18 and never had a girlfriend. Only kissed 2 girls. Never had sex. Never approached girls. But I could've sworn I had a desire for women. Which still happens often. But when I'm high, I start liking guys only and sometimes I even feel gay at times. I'm just confused. :/
     
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    I know what you mean. I don't have a lot of experience or advice. I think I am probably gay but sometimes I don't even know.
     
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    And that's okay! It is nice to enjoy the solace, solidarity, and camaraderie that goes along with having an easily identifiable label (gay, bi, pan, etc) but lots of people have no idea what they are until much later. Just be open to experiences and romantic interests if you like them. :slight_smile:
     
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    Have a straight friend who hits on me when he's high, so... yeah.

    Ask yourself this, do you see yourself with another guy? And, please... do this when you're mind is clear and not affected by, stuff.

    As for what you wrote in the beginning, that's normal and not indicative of your orientation.
     
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    omg I had an experience similar to that!
    One time when I was high (i'm a girl) I freaked out and had a bad reaction. I went home and my friend came over and was taking care of me and I just wanted to kiss her and I felt all sorts of feelings like I was in love with her. Now I have a boyfriend who I think is great and perfect for me but I can't seem to feel those feelings that I felt for my friend that night. I can't tell if it was the marajuana that made me feel that way or if those emotions were real and maybe I'm meant to love a girl. I'm starting to think the latter might be more correct... I completely understand where you are coming from. I haven't smoked since that day btw...I'm curious to see if I'd feel that way again with another girl.
     
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    Shinji is right. The fact you haven't slept with women doesn't mean you're gay - especially if you still find yourself attracted to them.

    Unfortunately, drugs are by nature mind-altering, and you can't really trust your feelings while you're "high". Having said that, perhaps you do have some attraction to guys as well - do you feel attracted to them romantically or sexually when you aren't high?

    Either way I wouldn't worry about it, there's a huge range of sexuality and you could be anywhere on that spectrum. :slight_smile: Don't try and attach a label to it at this stage, just follow whatever - and whoever - makes you happy, but as Shinji says you're better off figuring this out with a clear mind.
     
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    Drugs do alter things, but maybe you like guys anyway. Don't rush to label yourself, as so have already told you. Be patient and see what you really do like. Try not to fear it if you do or if you don't like dudes. I got really drunk once and told a guy he was hot (and probably some other stuff too). The next day, I couldn't remember if I said anything or not, or why I would have. I was completely straight, or so I thought. 9 years later, I Dmit to myself and a few others that I like men and women. Good luck on your journey
     
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    Well whatever you do, don't use open as an indicator. Porn is sex with no boundaries, so technically speaking, any type of porn can be arousing to anyone. The only difference is to what degree will people be aroused by it. So many other factors that have to be considered.