Urge to act out porn fantasies, but it feels wrong

I think you have been watching a bit too much porn , and whither or not your bisexual , bi curious or gay . I don't think that really matters right now , I think what you need to do if you hadn't done it is stop watching porn ,and try wait for a while maybe a couple of months and see if you feel the same way . I've been trying to quit porn as well and I have porn addiction ,and I have seen a few men that have the same problem as you .
I don't think it's a good idea to experiment while your still under your urge from porn .
I think you should quit watching porn for sure and see if anything changes or you still have these urges .
Put the whole sexuality thing aside for now and don't worry about it and focus on getting off porn it's gonna be hard but you can do it .

 

I've dated someone who had a porn addiction, so I may have some resources if you're interested? I was the "accountabili-buddy" so obviously my part in what I experienced was different, but message me if you want

As for trying stuff you've seen in porn, I think it may depend on what type of things they are, and why you are wanting to try them. If it's just typical male on male stuff it could just be seeing that type of sex in a new light, and you being open to it. If what you are watching is violent, rape fantasy, BDSM-type things, I would definitely err on the side of caution and back-burner those types of activities. Not that they are wrong, I'm a huge proponent of kink. BUT when you watch porn, and have to continually find new, more exciting/ intense porn to fuel your addiction, your gauge of what you actually want to do with another person can be very skewed. What seems like a good idea may just be serotonin and other receptors going crazy, and making you seem interested in things that you maybe actually aren't.

 

I'm not saying not to do but I'm saying you need to get over your porn addiction first , I don't know if you are bi or gay but if you have HOCD could get worse if you act on your porn fantasies so it's best to hold off on this stuff and try to get clean of of porn .

 

I have the same problem but you should try looking up the site yourbrain on porn it has help full tools . it explains porn addiction and ways to stop it .
One way that's very hard is trying no fap and also not watching porn .
here's a link you can read up on how porn and porn addiction affects your brain
Porn, Novelty and the Coolidge Effect | Your Brain On Porn
Also try joining a forum that helps with stopping porn addiction , I recently started that .

 

Like you said it could either be your really attracted to guys or this might be your porn addiction talking and the reason your seeking it in real life . watching gay porn doesn't make you you gay . You need to get your porn addiction under control because it doesn't matter who you date or sleep with male or female it will become a bigger problem for you . I'll send you another link with people that seem to have something similar to you, for you to read up on . But you have to quit you have an addiction and your showing signs of it that I've seen many men have on the addiction sites . Focus on quitting first

 

Porn addiction is very serious mate, and I certainly suggest stop trying to act out your fantasies so quickly. In terms of your post I would suggest don't act on this because it's not a good idea and will lead for you to regret what you are doing for the rest of your life.

I have never watched any type of porn in my life, in fact the porn in my life is provided by my thoughts, and that's not porn in anyway, that's my brain saying that is who you are(being that I've never ever watched porn and don't want to). You need to get over porn addiction defs.

A way to do that would be to talk to people who have had porn addiction and gotten over it. As you would learn things that would not be learnt on a LGBT forum like EmptyClosets.

 

I agree with this , I really think that he will regret it and it seems he has a huge addiction .
He really needs to quit porn .
I think he has HOCD caused by a lot of porn use .

 

I think you need to cut out all the web cam stuff out of your life all the porn everything and just focus on being porn free stop doing these things with these guys .
Just go cold turkey without them and allow your brain to reboot back to when you didn't use porn . 12 years old holy crap that's a long time of porn use , if you keep this up you'll be looking at ED around your 20's and not even people will be able to arouse you anymore and it will be hard for you to get an erection .
I didn't start porn til I was 19 years old .

 

With the years you been watching since 12 years old it you'll need more than a week, I started at 19 and not even 3 weeks is enough for me to shake off a porn addiction .Mine is so bad if I here words of ,any sexual cues it triggers me to watch porn . It might take months maybe even 6 months or more to fully reboot . Are you 18 ? , if you happen to relapse don't give up just keep trying . I have relapsed 4 times recently ,and it isn't stopping me . Also that guy who said he can help you should let him help too .
Also join a porn addiction support site and one thing I will warn you about is when you start quitting you will start getting angry or ticked off at things easily , also loud noises or sounds will drive you nuts in your withdraw process , you will flatline and might feel ed as well .
Anyway good luck

 

Your welcome , I realized that too after a while it was the something for me usually I hardly argue or get mad at stuff and now I'm like angry angry after porn withdraws and I use to do mine like 3 months porn withdraw sometimes 4 months then go back to porn and I'm all mad and upset all over again .

 

Here's the basic run-down to getting help with your addiction...

1) Delete very porn file, movie, picture, links, EVERYTHING on your whole computer.
2) Download K9 K9 Web Protection - Free Internet Filter and Parental Control Software | Free Internet Filtering and Parental Controls Software And have it block porn. Now when you set it up, you have the password, which defies the point. So give the pw to someone else, and have them change it. Depending on your computer skills, it is technically possible to get around if you really freaking try, but this is a pretty good easy/ free start.

3) Online forums are okay, but aren't nearly as helpful as real group meetings. SLAA (Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous) has many members who are porn addicts. Chances are there are meetings close to you. You are not alone. | Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous

4) Talking to a licensed therapist for one on one therapy, to deal with your underlying issues. This one is expensive if you don't have insurance, but if you have it, definitely worth it!