So I've been in a relationship for 5 years now, and we are exploring our sexuality. Now this might sound very off the way but my boyfriend tried it with a man, no I was not there, and yes the other man knows about me. I have never met this man, but my boyfriend wants me to meet him, and either try a three sum, or have my pleasure myself while I watch them. I have no objections to these thoughts he has. And Im glad he's being open with me, but the thing is that he would like me to try it with a girl. Here's my problem. I don't know if I'm not open with myself to a actually go out there and do it. I knida feel left out because of the fact, that he jumped and did it. I'm scared and I don't know what I want, or even if I want to try this. I have read blogs about this and I still don't know if I myself can go through with it. I want to make my man happy and I'm happy his thinking about me when he tried doing this. I'm gonna be honest, I like to watch gay porn. It turns me on, but lesbian porn isn't doing it for me. Like I said before I want to make my man happy and I'd do this for him. But if I did go through with it, how would I? I don't want to make a girl (if I do this) no let me rephrase that I don't want to hurt her. I don't know what to do! Am I afraid of my feelings, I don't know if I'm just plain scared, I don't know I need help. Please!
I might be mis-reading this but you don't sound particularly into women. Why participate in something like this if you know beforehand you're not going to enjoy it?
Sounds like a no bueno to me. I'd straight up tell him you just aren't into women at this point in time. Which isn't to say you never would be, if the right woman came along. But do NOT do anything you aren't really into, even if he wants you too. I understand feeling left out, and wanting to please him. But if you do this for him, chances are you will regret it, and most likely feel resentful.
IF I'M UNDERSTAND THIS CORRECTLY; basically you both get involved with the same sex of a different person in exploring your sexuality. However, your main question conflicts with what you are trying to do. You CANNOT make someone else happy by doing something that you are not 100% about- especially something like that! If you have any doubt that you may not want to partake in a 3 some, a slight relation with another female, or anything else then DON'T do it. You've also stated that you feel left out, due to the lack of experience you have yet to partake in. Don't compare yourself to him. It may make him happy to have a three some with him and his "friend", but it comes to how do YOU feel about it. No one can tell you what to do, you have to go with your gut feeling! <3
