Hello All, As the title states, I am way beyond confused about my sexuality and am hoping to get some feedback to maybe help clarify my situation. A little background information. I am a 30 yr old male, good job, pretty social, athletic, eat well, not depressed, not dependent on any substances, and overall live a good life; however, I have never had sex in my life with neither a man or a woman and I don't know why. My situation is screwed up because even at the age of 30 I cant tell if I am heterosexual, bisexual, gay, or asexual. I don't think anybody else thinks that I am anything but heterosexual....lol. I think you will see from the following points why I am completely confused. 1) From childhood to adolescence I always had crushes on girls. They were elementary-middle school crushes but nonetheless crushes. I would always dream about these girls in a warm fuzzy feeling kind of way and always wanted to be around them. 2) In my junior high-high school years I noticed that all those warm fuzzy feelings I had about girls seemed to go away and that I was becoming more attracted to my male counterparts. When I would see guys shirtless while playing sports I couldn't help but stare, although I would never let them catch me. My best friend in high school had a great body and when he went shirtless all I could think about was how can I touch that body. Here's were it gets confusing.....because at this point you are all probably assuming oh the situation is that you are clearly gay; however, bear in mind then next interesting points 3) While I don't enjoy kissing girls, boobs, or their torsos in general, I am absolutely crazy about vagina. When watching straight porn, it is vagina that turns me on. I know I would absolutely enjoy PIV sex and nothing more. 4) Even though I have never done it, I think I would prefer kiss a man, and yes I am absolutely attracted to the male torso; however, I have watched gay porn and I am absolutely repulsed by it. I could never suck a penis, have my penis sucked my another man, and definitely could never have anal sex with a man (giving or receiving). 5) When I see a naked picture of a good looking woman the only part that draws my attention is vagina. If I see a naked picture of a good looking man, I am only attracted to the face and torso and nothing more. 6) Flamboyant gays completely turn me off (No offense, I have absolutely no issue with those that are) So folks, where would you classify me on the spectrum? And what to do other than to fap to pics of guys torsos and straight porn? Any direction greatly appreciated. Regards
I've done quite a lot of reading on the subject lately, but I'm just as new to this as you are, so take anything I say with a grain of salt: It sounds to me that your sexual attraction to different parts of the anatomy of each gender is more of a fetish thing than a sexuality thing (Plus, as is mentioned throughout the forum, porn isn't a good indicator of sexuality). The fact that you could never see yourself having sex with a man makes me think that you might be a biromantic heterosexual, or maybe some variant of Gray-A.
