Hypothetical aromantic but sexual

I'd be surprised if there weren't people like this out there. I could definitely see people like this having problems, both with others in society, and perhaps with themselves for failing to conform to what society believes.

 

Yeah, of course. There are people only into casual sex and not relationships.

 

I think a lot of people are like this and are the ones that are demonized for being slutty, promiscuous, or only wanting sex with no emotions. I don't think there's anything wrong with it as long as everyone is honest and upfront about intentions.

 

I've been considering the possibility that I might be aromantic for a long time. It's really not possible for me to tell what I am or might be, considering my upbringing and surroundings. I haven't had the chance to meet that many guys yet, so there might be one out there that I eventually share a loving relationship with. I have only met two guys so far that I considered as potential for having a more-than-sexual relationship with. In both cases, those relations turned sour rather quickly. I've definitely got some learning to do, both about others and myself.

I don't think it's necessary to come out as being aromantic, but you can if you like. I generally don't have a problem explaining myself to people when necessary as being gay. Coming out as gay/whatever is a great analogy for coming out as anything really. There will be those who accept you, of course, but there are also going to be some people out there who think of you just as you said, but there will always be haters. I suppose you could just put it as, "Yeah. I have never been the type of person to have romantic feelings. I'm not broken or anything; it just doesn't happen."

I've always hated the terms slut, whore, and whatnot. People can go for whatever they want. It doesn't make them bad people. Sex isn't bad. Sex "without emotions" isn't bad either. I don't know where people get these silly preconceptions from.