So I'm a little confused (I guess that's why I'm here!). I know I'm a lesbian because I've never had an erotic thought about a man. But I have had romantic thoughts about them in my later twenties. I wonder if these romantic thoughts are just because I am comfortable and familiar being around men? It is kinda silly because even if I managed to catch a man (like a dog chasing a tyre) I'd have no idea what I'd do with him. The fact is I struggle to have romantic thoughts towards women - why? Is it because I fear coming out?
What to do? Why, rip him to shreds and spit him out by the side of the road and then trot home to the woman who gives you a loving home and whose bed you sleep in, of course. Well, some of that, anyway. Maybe, you just haven't met a woman who makes you feel romantic. I can relate to that. I'm sure it's possible. For all of us. I do suspect, though, she'll be easier to find if you're more "out" than "in".
