Is being bisexual a thing?

If you can't imagine yourself being with a guy romantically or sexually and you only want to have that kind of a relationship with a girl then you are straight.

 

You seem to me like just a straight guy who's only into masturbating to guys.

Masturbation/porn is a weird thing because it's more of you getting a sexy vibe and being stimulated rather than you being attracted to whatever the porn is about (which is why even asexual people can masturbate to porn and be fine). I would assume that generally what you're attracted to and what porn (or even non-porn images that turn you on as I am gathering is what your case is) you masturbate to line up but there are probably a lot of cases where they don't.

If you're only interested in dating women I would just consider yourself straight.

 

It depends. If you masturbate to images of guys, but wouldn't actually want to do anything with them or imagine yourself doing anything with them, I'd assume you're still most likely straight.

I think this is more commonly seen in females... where what they like to look at in porn doesn't always match up to their actual romantic/sexual preferences. For example, you have a lot of straight women who like to see females in porn and lesbians who like to see men in porn. And while it isn't as common with males, that doesn't mean it never happens.

I think the question to ask yourself is... are you aroused at the thought of doing anything with these males, or would you want to? If yes, then you might consider the possibility of being bisexual... if not, then you're most likely straight.

 

Maybe you don't have a hot guy fetish, you have a muscles fetish, in which case that is normal because muscles show that a person is healthy and good for mating with. It is a primal thing.

If you could never in a million years imagine yourself with the same sex, the I would call you straight. Hope it helped!

 

^ She has good advice. I know a lot of women who like porn involving the opposite gender of what they're into, so it doesn't surprise me that some men do too.

 

I'm going to go a little different than most of the answers here and say that you could still be anywhere along the spectrum from what you've written. I say this from experience. I started out sort of admiring attractive men, but of course I was attracted to women. Then eventually I started to think it would be hot to do sexual stuff with men (this only developed after a while) but still I enjoyed sexual stuff with women (I've actually been with more women than a lot of my straight friends). Still even at this stage I didn't have any romantic feelings for men--and could really only picture myself with a woman romantically. I was actually a bit of a ladies man--it's weird to think back on. I always sort of thought about sexual and romantic attraction that it was cool and all but maybe a little over-hyped. I had girlfriends and was sexually active but, well, it just wasn't really quite like it was in the movies. Well, it all changed when I had my first encounter with a guy--it actually started when a friend I was attracted to drunkenly kissed me. It was electric--literally my legs gave out. And, well, it was just like in the movies. And I realized that all the feelings I had had for women were really just a pale imitation of what I felt for men but just hadn't really let myself feel. I don't even consider myself bi--I haven't even looked at a woman that way--let alone slept with one--for over twenty years. I'm gay, gay, gay. And, well, I once felt pretty much exactly how you feel. I guess all I would say is try to really stay open to what you are feeling.

 

Maybe you're just bicurious at the moment .

 

My question for you is if you know there are bisexuals, then why would you post the thread with that title, if not to provoke?

 

Obviously I only have what you have written here to go on and even more obviously I don't really get a say but I've been out for a long time and I've watched a lot of people come to terms with things over the years. Based on what you've written here (your responses even more than your original post) if I had to put money on it I wouldn't even go with with bi, I'd go with gay. Just my two cents...

 

They called me gay and what not because well I guess I imitated behavior of the girls.

Yeah a couple people said that I could pass for gay because of how sassy I was, and how I could imitate the "oh no you didn't" thing girls did lol. I'm just good at imitating people, and a lot of people know me for that. I took it as a joke because, well, I never had feelings for guys anyways, so the thought of me being gay didn't cross my mind.

At least not until my porn addiction got worse. That's when I thought I was gay.

 

I did. Does it address the answer to my question? Because I did not find it to. :dry::dry:

The content itself is fine. But the title...why the provocative title? You're clearly articulate enough to have come up with a non-provocative title...were you just jerking us around to get us to read the thread? (and if so, I'll be damned if I'm inclined to give advice or perspective to someone who tries to manipulate me) Or what?

 

Confusedkid,

First of all, am I the only nerd who had to actually google the slang "motorboating?" :-/

Second of all, when I was younger, my attraction to males started out JUST LIKE YOURS. I would LITERALLY GAG if I saw an image of a guy's dick hard. I could see a naked guy, including his penis, and I was fine.

Then somehow I saw enough images that I got used to seeing an erect penis and it was like "mmm, okay, that's not too bad. It actually may be kinda hot." But at that time if I saw semen in the picture, or saw one guy having sex with another guy it made me gag.

Guess what? Well, later I didn't have too much of a problem with that. I still prefer pictures of guys who are flaccid for some reason, so I'm kind of still in that "body worship" phase, although I've had some sexual experience with men.

I'm confused, myself, so take anything I tell you with a grain of salt, but I kind of wished I had given myself time to really consider all angles when I was younger. It seems like it's much more stressful doing this after I'm older, married, and a father.

So you may not be gay, you may not even be bi, but I would really dig into this and maybe even go to a counselor to help you sort out your feelings. I know it's kind of tough doing that (boy, do I know), but take the time to do it while you are young and save yourself and maybe others some grief.

Peace and blessings!

 

I'm 45. The 19 you saw must have been the number of posts I had at the time. I just realized my age doesn't show up in my profile or on the little thingey to the left of my posts. I may need to edit something for it to show.