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Denial or what?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by fdfsdf, Dec 9, 2014.

  1. fdfsdf

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    I don't know what I am anymore. Used to think I was straight until not to long ago. I cannot get erections to women like I used to and sometimes I can get fully erect by looking at a picture of a naked man. I got into gay porn to test myself and sometimes my orgasam's feel more intense and fulfilling. I can still sometimes get erect to women and orgasm but sometimes not as good. Starting to think I might be bi but I think I try to hard to get an erection with women but it's easier with men. Am I denial of being gay? I really have no problem with it. I'm 25 now but in my earlier years I felt I was strictly into women..just to shy and nervous to talk to them.
     
  2. Chip

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    Difficult to say definitively from what you've said. Porn isn't the most reliable indicator.

    You will usually get the most reliable indication by trying masturbation without porn and relying solely on fantasies. First try masturbating without focusing on anything in particular and see what thoughts come into your mind (men or women) You might also then try actively fantasizing about women and then try focusing on men, and see if one or the other gives you noticeably stronger arousal.

    It isn't uncommon for people to be blissfully ignorant into their 20s and even beyond so you are far from alone.

    If you can try the above and then report back, we can probably give you some better information.
     
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    I know I tried that not too long ago..I think the orgasam was almost equal maybe the thought of a man was a bit stronger..but I don't know. This just started happening not to long ago and I had become obsessed with it. It tapered off for awhile but now it came back.