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Straight attractions "just a phase?"

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by piano71, Dec 11, 2014.

  1. piano71

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    I was thinking about something recently. Though I now consider myself 100% gay, I remember than when puberty hit for me around age 13 (fall of my 7th-grade year), I was attracted to both girls and guys. But about 8-9 months later (first week of June) I was only attracted to guys, enough that I walked about 5 miles by myself, trying to convince myself "not to think about guys anymore" lest I "turn out gay." Of course, you see what happened there... :slight_smile: My attempt to "not be gay" lasted only about two weeks before I started fantasizing about guys again ... and after that, ONLY GUYS would turn me on.

    I just wonder, why did the bi/hetero thoughts I had just die off in the space of 9 months? What changed in me during that time that I became 100% gay?

    It's like what they tell straight youth, that gay feelings are "just a phase" and you'll get over it. But for me, straight attractions were "just a phase" and I wound up completely gay...
     
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    Lmao, the exact same thing happened to me. I was attracted to women at one point, but now not at all. It confuses me so much.
     
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    I think that if a person is gay over their whole life span apart from, say, a tiny bit when they were a young teenager, this can probably be classed as a 'phase', probably (in my opinion) caused by the sudden confusion/hormones of puberty. Although I prefer to think of it as sexuality 'settling down' rather than being a 'phase'. Puberty certainly is a weird time. That said, time may show that it was indicative of a degree of bisexuality. But it could equally have been a 'phase' what with hormones and the beginning of puberty distorting things etc - and things are clearer now because things are settling down. Who knows really! What's important is that you feel happy in yourself and feel supported by those around you.
     
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    This is really interesting to me because I keep remembering my first real crush, which was on a guy when I was 13, and thinking it means I must be straight. Now, in my particular case I really doubt I am gay because I went on to have relationships with men and so on, and it was only the sexual part that didn't seem to work out. But I'm still interested to hear that a person can have these feelings and it doesn't determine their orientation.
     
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    It's never a phase hun , gay isn't a phase , bi isn't a phase and straight isn't a phase .
    Maybe you're just bi and realizing it .:confused:
    And if it happens to be one chick or one dude we call that a one exception to the rule .