Hello everyone. I literally just joined this website so I could post this question which has been killing me for the past couple of months. So I'll try to make it as short as possible. Ever since I was a kid I knew I felt something for guys and it wasn't until 5th grade when I finally realised I liked guys, and back then I thought I was bisexual. Years later I realized that I only got sexually aroused by watching males and gay pornography. What's happening is that I CANNOT see myself in the future with a guy other than for sex, but not in a relationship. I always find it easier to talk to women and I do see myself living with one and hopefully having a family, my only problem is that I'm not SEXUALLY attracted to women. I'm curretly 18 years old and I honestly don't know if I'm gay or bisexual. I do get turned on by guys but can't see myself in a sentimental relationship with one, but the opposite happens with girls. I also must say I have never dated anyone before. Can anyone please help me understand if what I'm feeling is normal and if I'm gay or bi?
I know it is possible for someone to be romantically attracted to one sex and sexually to the other, so the two don't match up. I felt this way to some degree when I originally was questioning myself. However now I feel pretty settled on guys. So maybe in my case it was psychological blocks? I'm in no way suggesting the same for you. Ultimately Only you can figure that out. Anyone else got any thoughts? I'm feel like I was rather unhelpful. :/
You might have a look at this: Am I Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, or Transgender? There is sexual and romantic attraction... and some people say they do not fall in love with a gender but a person... I'd say take your time... It might be possible there are mental blocks concerning having a partnership with a man... nowadays society gets more and more open, and its possible to adopt children, for example... if in doubt you might talk to a therapist, or to someone from an lgbt center...
Nobody can answer what your sexual orientation is, but because my experience was identical to yours I am going to give my thoughts on this. You said you wanted to be with a woman, but it sounded more that you crave for a "perfect life" (kids, companionship). From your post I didn' get that you are TRULY interested in a relationship with a woman. although you may get along with them, you probably don't have strong romantic feelings for them You CANNOT see yourself in a relationship with a guy. This may or may not change. however I would want to know what are the reasons you don't want a relationship with man. have you ever gott a crush on another boy/man? Are you totally comfortable with the idea of being gay/bisexual?
No-one can answer that except you- but I've found it's a lot more complicated in some cases than others. I still don't know what I am, for instance. I'm attracted to both sexes physically, if there's a certain body type involved- but it's mainly aesthetic- I love faces and things, and personalities, but TBH, the 'privates' of both sexes don't do a lot for me sexually, and I'd quite happily be celibate (although I enjoy sex- I don't feel I *need* it). I'm attracted to personalities mainly- and gender doesn't really enter into it, although obviously it's an easier path to be 'straight' and can be tempting for that reason if you're in a non-confrontational/ lazy type of mood... I'm married and do adore my OH, but possibly I'd prefer the sexual side of things with a woman- but I'm happy with that compromise because it seems greedy to seek some elusive 'perfection' when I have such a lovely partner. I suppose it depends on your priorities in life- mine are to be with whoever I enjoy being with the most.. good luck in figuring it out!!:smilewave
