So I'm a 22 year old woman and I have been questioning my sexuality for going on two years now. I dated an openly gay woman for a year. The relationship was known to friends but not my family. This was my only relationship/sexual experience gay or straight. I struggled to come to terms with my sexuality throughout the entirety of the relationship and today, nearly a year since the relationship ended. I'm fairly certain I loved her but was never sure I was gay while we dated. I think one of the main reasons I am struggling so much is because I never had such relations with a guy. I don't have anything to compare it to. Maybe that relationship was right the whole time, and I'd have to be with a guy to know what that "wrong" feeling feels like. I feel like in order for me to figure out my sexuality I need some clear confirmation, one way or the other but I don't know how to get it. I envy those people who say they always knew they were gay, they were just afraid to admit it. I am just completely confused. Any insight would help. I'm tired of feeling like this, I feel like I wasted two years of my life trying to find my identity because I have nothing to show for it. Thanks.
This might not help, but you could be bisexual? Who do you have sexual/sensual thoughts about? Are they pleasant fantasies or uneasy nightmares? No one can tell you your gay/straight/bi/whatever. You have to figure it out for yourself. I'm probably just confusing you more @_@ I just want to help. Another thing: don't over think it. You can confuse yourself by doing that. Take a step back and realize that one day you will find someone you love and care for. It probably won't be today/tomorrow, and the person might surprise you. They might walk into your life and you'll be like, "OMFG that is the most beautiful/sexy/honest/caring/etc person I've ever seen!" Also, maybe you need to try a man. Unless the thought repulsed you! Then you are gay. If you honestly think you could go for a man, then you are definitely bisexual. One thing I know is that the thought of being with a woman repulses me. That's how I know Im gay. I feel comfortable dating men and I find them more appealing. That's how I've always known. If you feel you could be in a sexual relationship with a man your probably bi. ---------- Post added 18th Dec 2014 at 01:32 PM ---------- Unless you want to know which is BETTER for you, a man or woman. In this instance it probably doesn't matter because every single man and every single woman are all equals but different. Everyone's personality/intellect/everything is different. You might find some asshole guy or some bitch of a woman. You might find Prince charming, or you might find the Belle of the ball. It just depends who you get along with. Hope this help a little! And it doesn't make your confusion worse!
