Okay first, sorry this might be long. I am a 16 year old male and I am definitely straight but I have been wondering. I love chicks and get errextions when watching porn so I am not gay I know that but sometimes there is guys that I have a weird feeling for like I like them a lot but I would never do gay things with them its so weird because I would never have gay sex but I feel affection torward certain guys. I can't understand, I have a friend who is bi and she told me to give it lots of time it took her a long time. I have never been in a relationship or even kissed a girl. I really like chicks and would have sexwith girls but I like giggle when I'm around a group of guys. I don't want them to think I'm weird or call me names I don't want anyone to call me names but I am lost because just because I wouldn't do it with a guy does that decide it or is it the feelings I get. Maybe I am starting to realize what a female might feel about a guy she likes because I heard if I guy likes a girl he won't fuck her but if a girl truly loves the guy she would fuck him. I just don't wanna be weird anymore. Sorry if this is confusing:icon_sad: ---------- Post added 19th Dec 2014 at 11:09 PM ---------- Maybe I am bi but I don't wanna accept it it might embarress me to myself I think I would look down on myself. I think gay sex is so gross I'd never do it Do I have to be willing to fuck with a guy to make me big or is it the way I feel?
You might have a look here: Am I Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, or Transgender? There is romantic and sexual attraction... I'd say take your time... And gay people have been around in all cultures... its perfectly ok to be gay... If you want to, you might think about counseling... with a counselor, a counselor from school or someone from an lgbt center...
Well the first thing is that you shouldn't see gay sex as "bad" demeaning, or gross. You sound like you have a little internal homophobia which may be masking your true feelins. It sounds like it's probably not for you if you don't find it appealing whatsoever. Straight men can find other men attractive, but there doesn't have to be anything sexual there, which It sounds like is the case with you. It's prefectly normal to see guys and think "Hey, that's a good looking dude." That being said, don't rule out being bisexual or even gay. Porn has brought me a lot of sexual confusion too, so you're not alone there. Just think about it more and you will know.
I agree with EpicConfusion. You should not feel that gay sex is "gross." It is perfectly normal for people who engage in it. I definitely sounds like you need to do some major self reflecting. I remember when I was 16 and wanted to fit in and not be the weird outsider. It forced me to stay in the closet and feel even more isolated. That was a long time ago and things have changed a lot. If I were a teenager during this time I think I would have come out. That said, you can't let what others think dictate what you feel and who you are. I am not saying you are gay or bi. You may very well be bi-curious or only attracted to a specific person. Only you can answer that. Again, do some self reflecting and don't worry about what other think. The answer will come to you.
" don't want them to think I'm weird or call me names I don't want anyone to call me names" - this is completely normal, people generally don't like being called names. Moreover, as you probably already know, there are plenty of people who will stereotype based on things like romantic or sexual orientation, or use it as a target for hatred, which does make it more difficult to dismiss this as simply an irrational fear. But you can't let it get to your head. I've been there and I'm sure you'll find *plenty* of others in the same shoes. I'd recommend making a serious effort to keep an open mind with yourself when trying to discover who you are. I'd also like to point out that there are many experienced people who will tell you that sexual orientation (or romantic orientation) isn't a dichotomy. People aren't necessarily just "gay" or "straight"; sexual orientation is often represented as a complete spectrum. There simply aren't enough labels to accurately describe everyone's sexuality, so don't make the mistake of getting caught up in stressing over the labels too much. Again just try and be open with yourself and you're feelings and reactions to others. I'm going to end by saying that liking guys snit anymore "bad", "abnormal", or "gross" then liking girls is. Keep that perspective in mind while reflecting on this, even if you don't currently agree with it. You could even try repeating it to yourself. Rather you find out you "click" with guys or not, or something completely different, I think this all might come a little clearer or easier to you if you try and just trust your heart and yourself without judgments getting in the way and confusing things. But then again my advice is cheap xD
