Seriously this may have some explicit (and slightly neurotic) content in it and I would prefer female opinions on the subject. Is being wet a reliable indicator of arousal? Ive been obsessing a about this lately. There are certain girls who I worry that I'm attracted to. Every time I see them I try and keep track of how wet I am, i.e. Frequent trips to the bathroom, trying to quantify it, etc. Could thinking about it around certain people make me wetter, if it's a yellowish colour is it just discharge not arousal, am I actually turned on by these people of am I just crazy? I know that I'm somewhat attracted to girls as I fantasize about them frequently (though not exactly specific individuals more essences and only receiving) but is being wet around certain girls an indicator that I'm a full lesbian?
For me discharge/wetness can be due to a number of things, whether I'm actually aroused or just because I'm wearing chafing pants. That being said, it is often a lot harder for folks with vaginas to tell when we're aroused, there not being an obvious indicator like an erection. If I were you I'd look for some other signs of arousal around these girls, like an accompanying feeling in the nether regions (not to be too graphic) or maybe a flush in your cheeks, or just...Like I said, it's hard to say. But I wouldn't necessarily try to overanalyze this one symptom unless you have some reason to believe that there may be more going on.
I also start breathing harder... I'm like "oh god I'm doing it again" So... being wet is a sign but probably not the only one. As a slight tangent, Ive done the breathing harder thing my whole life around a lot of women. I thought it was just coincidental.
While getting wet is a very useful indicator, I highly doubt it can be quantified in any meaningful way. If you stay aroused for a longer time, there will probably be more, but that might not mean you're actually more attracted/aroused. I get wet when I don't even realize I'm aroused, like reading certain erotic stories. My lady parts know I'm aroused before my brain does. As far as I know, the fluid from arousal is clear, but it could become mixed with whatever else is happening inside (unrelated discharge, etc.)
Eh, I wouldn't say it's a reliable indicator, simply because it's natural at various points in a woman's cycle to be 'wetter' or have more discharge (of various consistencies) in general. However, that being said, I have noted more wetness when aroused. But these were at times when I definitely knew that I was aroused; the situation was unambiguous. I know these two statements might not help, but I guess I'll phrase it this way: When you're wetter, it may or may not be because you're aroused - unless it's DEFINITELY because you're aroused. xD (Do you know what I'm saying?) ---------- Post added 22nd Dec 2014 at 12:38 AM ---------- Possibly. I think slight variances in color have more to do with what part of your cycle you're in (I'm not talking about menstruation time itself, with red from blood) maybe, than whether it's arousal or not. Maybe, but not necessarily. Too many other factors possibly causing it. ---------- Post added 22nd Dec 2014 at 12:44 AM ---------- I think the best indicator of whether you like women or not is simply in your chest/heart/gut. That is, do you feel a flush of excitement or nervousness around women that you think are beautiful or intriguing? Do you find yourself daydreaming about them frequently, or thinking of them at other times than when they're around you? Do you get 'mad crushes' on certain girls? Do you imagine you & them doing stuff (not necessarily sexual stuff) together, various activities and scenarios? Do you kind of romanticize these scenarios? Like, about how you'll get to know her better, or how she might reveal more of herself to you?
Thanks for the answers everyone! I know it's kind of a weird question, I just always feel like I need reassurance. And all paths I don't tend to romanticize my attractions to these girls. I definitely do it with the guys I have mad crushes on, but when it comes to women I don't tend to get obsessive in the same way. I do get lots of nervousness around these girls but it really depends on my mood and I always attributed it to Oh my God there's so and so, am I attracted to them???? Like I'll see them and I'll be fine until I start wondering if I'm turned on or not.
Not reliable at all. Studies have shown that women get wet to ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. Including toward Men, Women, Guy-on-Girl porn, Guy-on-Guy porn, Girl-on-Girl porn, and even child porn and zoophilia (even when It's seen as morally repugnant). In fact almost all women get wet/aroused when they are being raped and abused as well. Therefore I would be shocked if it truly meant anything.
