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What is my sexual orientation?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by terrified, Dec 23, 2014.

  1. terrified

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    Since my teenage years I have been attracted to guys. The first porn I ever watched and masturbated to was straight porn (when I was around 14/15) and despite being into guys only at that age, I used to be really turned on by the porn. I never watched gay porn at this time and it did not interest me whatsoever (even though in my head I was identifying my sexuality as "gay").

    Now, as the years have gone by, and as I approach my 30s, I am still very much attracted to men, and think I do definitely prefer them way more than women. But this is the thing. I am now feeling attracted to women, and as time goes by, more so and more so.

    I am now even thinking about f*cking a woman when I masturbate, and previously in the past I never did this, ever. I watch both straight AND gay porn (though 9 times out of 10 it is straight porn, mostly MMF double penetration porn which is my favourite). I mostly used to concentrate on the guy but now I am more and more getting turned on by the woman also, and the thought of f*cking p*ssy is becoming such a huge turn on for me!

    I have always loved men and had very little to almost (but not quite) no interest in women. What is going on with me? I thought you couldn't change your sexuality? My interest in men doesn't seem to be going away at all, but is it possible that it will?
    I am extremely confused as I am someone who has always thought of myself as a gay guy, I don't know why this is happening. It's not like someone has "got me into it", started to "turn" me or make me bi and I have NOT seen a counselor to help me change, this just is happening naturally ! Is this normal or is this unusual?

    I've always had and continue to have lots and lots of sexual activity with many, many men and have never liked women enough to want to "seek out" a woman. But now, really oddly, I now feel very much so like I really want to go out and find pussy!

    I am able to fall deeply in love with guys and develop very strong emotional attachment and feelings for guys but never ever felt (and still do not feel) like I could with a woman. It's beginning to seem that I am getting into women sexually but still not on an emotional level. I still cannot see myself ever loving a woman.

    I have come out in private to several people in my life (though I prefer most people not to know about my sexuality, I am not entirely comfortable with the whole world knowing that I like guys) - so this has made me start to feel angry and so, so much regret at coming out to those particular people because now I really like pussy and they think I am gay! Now would I have to tell them I am bi and they would think I am lying !!?? :tears:

    By the way, this started off as coming in what I think of to myself as "waves". I would go through short phases where I felt strongly interested in p*ssy but they were just phases - that is how it started off, and now it seems the most recent phase of this has become, well, permanent and no longer a phase. It has not overtaken my love of c*ck instead of p*ssy, but it is getting quite strong.

    When I am in a public place I am still noticing hot guys way more, but again, now I am noticing hot women - something I have never in my life experienced! It's so strange how this change has happened. I am truly baffled by this and deeply confused .

    Can anyone on here relate to this experience that I am going through? What is going on, here? Will I eventually become straight? Will the desire for having sex with a woman and having fantasies about them go away, eventually or are they here to stay? Am I bi, gay or straight in actual reality?
     
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  2. jay777

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