Hi I'm a 17 year old male who's in need of help with figuring out who he is I'm still unsure of my sexuality In my early teens, age 8-14, I was exclusively straight, could only think and masturbate to girls. The penis turnt me off, I couldn't watch straight porn because it turned me off, I was repelled by the sight of it, etc When I reached the age of 14, I started questioning my sexuality because I came to the sudden realization that I didn't seem to be able to masturbate to the videos I used to, I just didn't get a hard-on any more... And for some reason, some guy turnt me on! Not irl, but on the Internet! I might be fooling myself, but I've found that 3 years have passed, and sometimes when I think of having a wife (lol seriously tho) it turns me on! Also I'm a little but unsure but I think I wouldn't mind at least trying to have sex with some girls I know irl.. and there have been pictures of female fitness models whose curvy bodies I seem to be fond of and wouldn't mind trying to have sex with them.. So I REALLY am confused as to what my sexual orientation is.. I need help pls!! This thing really upsets and saddens me... thx so much also I don't have a damn problem with LGBT people, I just wanna know who I am.... ---------- Post added 30th Dec 2014 at 04:30 PM ---------- Sorry for this post but I'Ve found that I'm unable to edit the OP so don't mind me adding some updates.. The problem is that I've tried to masturbate to guys ever since I was 14 and I could! But when I see gay guys irl, sorry to put it this way, but I'm kinda.. repelled in the sense that I don't want to have to do anything with them, no disrespect really.. so this is damn weird and confuses me And I think that I've also found myself able to masturbate to women too, however, I REALLY need to think and concentrate.. when I was 8-14, it was sufficient to look at the pictures and videos, but nowadays, straight or lesbian videos don't turn me on in the sense I don't get an erection.... weird But I'm not repelled by female ass, breasts (fake lol) and I've found that there was a girl I was really attracted to a year ago, she's my ex-classmate But irl, I don't seem to feel the desire to go to a girl and try to pick her up
Well, you could try these options and see if they help you... a) Try masturbating without porn. No pics, no videos, just your imagination. Go into it with no expectations about what you 'should' be thinking about and no judgement about what you do think about, just let your mind go where it will. Do you end up fantasizing about doing stuff with a man or doing stuff with a woman? b) Again, masturbating without porn - fantasy only - but this time try fantasizing about being with a guy. Next time you get the urge, masturbate while fantasizing about being with a woman. Now, compare the two experiences - which did you enjoy more? c) Go out somewhere with a lot of people around and allow yourself to check out guys. Again, no preconceptions about what you 'should' like and no judgement. Another time, do the same thing, but this time checking out women. Which experience do you enjoy more? Note that you could also be bi, possibly leaning more toward guys (it's not a simple 50-50 split for many people). Finally, when you say you don't want anything to do with gay guys, what do you mean by that exactly? Is it a case of, if you see a guy who you might otherwise be attracted to, and you find out he's gay (regardless of his demeanor or behavior) that attraction turns off? Or that when you say 'gay guys' you mean guys who are fem or fit the 'gay stereotype'? Because not all gay (or bi) guys fit the stereotype. Many don't fit it all actually. Hope this helps, Todd
Hey! I had a similar problem recently, just kind of... the other way around. (although not by masturbating lol) I love men. I've always loved men and I've never really felt anything for girls, but then one day I woke up and was like "WTF, what if I'm gay?" but I know that I'm not! So after some posts here, investigating and stuff, I realized that it's HOCD. google it. it might help clear some things out.
Hey Todd! I've tried options b and c... When I don't have class and some girls' PE lesson is over, they walk through the corridor where I sit on a bench, and I almost always check them out and enjoy it! As to options a and b, I think the only way to figure it out is to have sex with a girl and ask myself if I enjoyed it or not.. When I said that I don't want to have anything to do with gay guys or guys in general in a sexual sense, I meant that I just don't really feel the urge to talk to them or something.. Not that I look down on them - not at all actually, I don't discriminate -, but that I don't think I'd ever want to engage in a gay relationship, I can't really see myself with a husband and stuff... I think even if my heart would want it - even though I don't think it ever did - I would still reject it.. Basically, one of my main concerns is, why in the hell do I most of the time - whenever I try to fantasize about a female - imagine the female having a dick lmao this is no joke and I don't know what the f*** is going on, I understand this is funny as hell but I'm serious.... confuses me... That doesn't always happen, but I really have to try hard not to, I think.... Anyone else has had this? ^Also that has happened since my problems started.. that is, as of the age of 14...
