So.....Im 14, I've always been attracted to girls sexually and in very other way, but since 2 months ago i've had doubts about my sexuality. I watched gay porn the other day..... I got hard, i then watchd straight porn about 10 minutes later, i did not get an erection. I have masturbated to gay porn, but have never done it and thiught of a gay experience, i never get hard over mens bodies, like abs and shit. I Have no romantic or emotional feelings towards men, but do for girls. Im really worried as, one way to see if ur gay is that ur ring inger is shrter than ur indx finger......on my hands it is. I really wont want to be gay. I wanna live the rest of my life with a girl. Am i gay ???? What do u think ????
You said it, you're 14. At this age you naturally start questioning things, and that's perfectly normal. The fact you watched gay porn seems to me that you were simply curious, but may I ask, did you tell yourself to watch it or did you just stumble upon it? Neither of these will make you gay, so don't be afraid to be honest. What you get an erection to as apposed to what you actually want to do with somebody, are two complete different things. At 14 your hormones are all over the place and you will find yourself getting an erection to the strangest things, however just because you got erect over gay porn doesn't mean you actually want to be with a man. Maybe you found it more passionate, maybe it gave that little bit more of an 'umph' to your pleasurability...but it doesn't mean you're gay. The fact you didn't get erect to watching straight porn, is because it was so soon after you masturbated....give your body a break...but it seems as though you felt a little guilt. And let me add, there's nothing wrong with physical attraction. Physical and sexual attraction are two completely different things; I mean I can admire a mans physique or face but that doesn't mean I want to be with a man, nor engage with one. You've said it yourself, you have no attraction to men, so just take a breather. You're young, you experiment...welcome to the steps towards adulthood. And lastly, ignore the crap you said at the end. Does that follow up with "Men with both ears pierced are gay" or "Men who wear a watch on their left wrists are gay", my god I thought things like that were left in the playground. Just calm down, forget about it. It's really not worth worrying about...its natural...you're a 14 year old who's going through puberty and hormone changes, let it be.
im kinda in the same boat...... ok, so I'm a female & I've known since i was extremely young that i was attracted to girls as well as guys. Since i was 14, I've only dated guys although the female attractions still lingered. I've been "talking" to this guy for 2 years, dating him for 4 months. We've been having problems a good solid month & I've discovered that I'm no longer attracted to guys, AT ALL. Cant even see or picture myself with another guy if this doesn't work out, but i CAN see the possibility of a female relationship. Anywho.....im wondering if he has COMPLETELY CONVERTED ME to lesbian. and if so, how on earth do i explain that* i hope we both can figure this out
it doesnt mean your gay just getting hard over gay porn but whats wrong with being gay i love being gay but seriously just think about how you feel and if you like boys then thats great and if you like girls thats fine too
