i had sex with a guy for the first time...

Don't beat yourself up for it:icon_sad:
Just try to not get drunk

 

I guess this means I shouldn't have sex with guys...

 

Very understandable. But know that it happens a lot. It's not uncommon to let our genitals make some decisions for us (especially with alcohol's help), that we end up regretting. Forgive yourself. And don't forget to talk to Luke. That's probably the most important part. Thank him for using protection, and see if you can patch things up. (Your post suggests this was at the very least a mutually-agreed-to decision, so I'm assuming that's the case.)

Lex

 

I ended up feeling the same way the only difference is I got raped .

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Merbear I don't think you should blame yourself.

 

Do you want to go back to being just friends

 

Are you uncomfortable because he didn't stop you?
I think it's normal to feel.this way

 

Many of us have had sexual encounters we are not proud of - either because of the lead-in, the circumstances, the other person, the sexual experience itself, and, yes, sometimes even the "space" we were in when it happened.

It's an experience. It doesn't define you. It sounds like the drinking was more of the problem than the sex. It's what led to the sex. So, learn to ease off on the booze. And, if you feel the booze is a problem, admit it to yourself and seek help.

 

Forgive yourself. we do some things we regret. but now remember that when we get drunk, we are impaired, and make bad decisions. in fact, we might not even make decisions, we just do stuff. and not everybody that we do stuff with will use a condom. so, lesson learned, don't drink that much again. and if you find it hard not to keep drinking until you get drunk, talk to your doctor about it. you're ok, and we all love you. glad you're here with us! (&&&)

 

I agree with wildside and tightrope , I think you need to handle your drinking and not drink so much and if you have a problem with drinking maybe you should enter a sober program .

 

I... don't think she has a drinking problem just because she had too much liquor one night and did something stupid.

I wish people on here would stop instantly insinuating that people have serious issues with alcohol/drinking whenever there is a problem that involved it.

 

The reason why I said this is because of a previous post she wrote where she was having problems with drinking and be came addicted to moonshine that's why I suggest if she has a problem to go to a place that helps get others sober . It was not meant as an insult but just to be helpful . I don't know if the others read that same post but I did .

 

Seen in that context, your comment seems both appropriate and respectful afaic.

 

Thanks Damien

 

Maybe you should cut contact with him for a while because of how much this bothers you and you don't want it to be a painful reminder.

Anyway, sorry -hug-