I've been identifying as an Asexual for awhile now. Every since I was young, I have had fetishes. I get off sexually over my fetishes. When I was first considering the possibility of being Asexual, I read a article by an Asexual who claimed that a person could have fetishes and still be asexual. I didn't bother nor want to question this until only recently, when some friends of mine told me that it is impossible to be asexual and have fetishes. That and, I'm probably just celibate. The more I think of it, the more of a contradiction it seems like. It's gotten me to start rethinking my sexuality yet again! Ahh! What are your thoughts on this?
Asexuality by definition is the inability to become sexually attracted to an individual. Being asexual does not mean you cannot have sex, and as an extent to this rule, it also does not exclude the possibility in finding various fetishes as being arousing. As long as you realize that sex and sexual attraction are two different concepts. 愛
I do realize that but… I have found some people to be sexually attractive. Granted this is kind of rare. Last week, I was out shopping for groceries, when I saw a woman who sort of fit my type and I actually got sexually aroused - I think. It was very similar to how I feel with my fetishes. It was like this concentrated ping of energy. I had to try very hard to keep myself from smiling.
i dont really think that counts really, i may be misreading this but that seemed like your were just recognizing her attractivness for example, i am gay so when i see a women i usually get surprised and think"wow she is beautiful or cute and sometimes, hot and i smile or laugh but that does not mean i want to have sex with them, hope that helped
This is probably going to sound very confusing but, my mindset towards people I'm attracted to very rarely revolves around sex. It barely occurs to me. I don't spend my time, thinking about bedding those that match my type. The only exceptions to this rule have been two people. One is a celebrity that I've had sexually dreams about and the other one is someone that I'm in love with.
oh well, this is just my two-cents lol but to me i guess sexuality in human beings is nature so i think its okay to have a sexual dream or find someone sexually attractive once in a while
Asexual is literally not being sexually attracted to anyone. If you occasionally experience sexual attraction to a person, you may in reality be graysexual.
Asexual means no sexual attraction to a specific person of any gender. For example, if you get off to specific types of porn, you can still be ace. Many lesbians are turned on by two gay men having sex, but they don't want to have sex with men. If you are actually aroused by a specific person, you are not asexual. If you are aroused only once in a blue moon, you are gray-A.
I thought I remember reading somewhere that asexuality had a sort of spectrum but the common theme was still lack of sexual attraction and included people who were asexual but had sex anyway due to social norms, were attracted from time to time to others or things, but still mostly asexual. It's been awhile since I read about asexuality though, I once thought I might be too.
I'm increasingly becoming a more sexual oriented person. I'm feeling sexual attractions only to specific types. I'm looking forward to the possibility of having sex with the person I love. And, I have a lot of fetishes/sexual fantasies that revolve around sex. I'm becoming more and more doubtful that I'm still an Asexual. ---------- Post added 7th Jan 2015 at 02:33 AM ---------- I was identifying as a Grey-Ace, but my sexual interests/fantasies are making me very doubtful. What's an Autosexual?
It's pretty common for aces to have fetishes, don't worry too much about it. An autosexual is someone that is sexualy attracted to themself.
What about sexual fantasies? Because, for awhile now, I've had quite a number of really "intense" sexual fantasies.
