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Lesbians and Bisexuals

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Ellieworm, Jan 8, 2015.

  1. Ellieworm

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    Am I a lesbian or a bisexual? i have no idea

    For the past few years, that is what i have been debating. Honestly i have no idea.
    The thought is constantly in my head, ALMOST twenty-four seven. i am extremely confused. As you can see, my orientation thing says that i am bi, leaning towards girls, but in all honesty I am just as confused now as I ever was!
    I know orientation is not based off of what you wear or look, but if i walked up to on the street what would you think?: 5' 7'' white girl, got some muscles going on, wearing dark blue button down shirt, dark wash jeans, ankle boots with white lace on one bit of it, and hair is back in a bun. What would you think I am? Again, I know you can't guess from appearance. I just can't come to any descion. My problem is is that i always want to put a label on something and make sure everything is packed away properly.
    I have always dated guys and had crushes on guys, but over the past couple years, that changed. Ive been forcing myself to like guys almost. i see them as still being cute and attractive, but that is all. Girls on the other hand, I have caught myself looking down shirts, looking at butts, and fantasizing about them and dreaming about them. They are beautiful and also can turn me one.
    Whats wrong with me!? I have no idea:bang::tears:
    If you could help please...
     
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    I think you should focus less on how you dress, I sure don't
    I focus on what genders I'm attracted to.
    I didn't know people just focused on how they dress

    If I focused on how I dressed I would be calling myself a straight woman who only is only attracted to women.
     
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    I don't even know why I put that part about dressing. I was kind of rambling on and that seemed to just end up there
     
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    I didn't think you should worry so much about it I didn't find out I was lesbian till 25 .
    You should just let it flow.
     
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    What she said. Do like Frozen and "Let It Go"
     
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    Ya do love that song and that movie!
     
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    I'm all over the place...thought I was straight, then lesbian, then 10 years later I get a huge crush on a guy. Now I'm back to can't even imagine a relationship with a man, only a woman. It changes! Just go with it!
     
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    The thing that helps me to de-complicate my own sexuality when I get overwhelmed is to just think of it in terms of an "Interested In" status. There's one box for men & one box for women; you can check one or the other, both, or neither.

    Yes, sexual & romantic orientation is way more complicated than that. But really, all that matters in terms of practical application of labels is who you're interested in dating. So if you know which boxes you'd check, you've really got everything you need to function in your life.
     
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    Sounds very facebook-y. I like it! Friending you!