Hello everyone! I made this post to take advise about a decision I took. The thing goes like this: I met a guy last night at a local bar. I went there with a friend of mine just to have some fun. After talking for a while with her, a guy approached us and asked if we wanted to dance with him (he was with 3 friends there and only them were dancing). So i decided to get up and dance, it was nice and i had fun, i talked a lot with one of the guy's friend (Alan), and the guy that invited us was... well, he was making my friend feel uncomfortable, he wanted to kiss her somehow and she denied, so we left after a beer and a martini, the place was closing anyway. After a block, Alan appeared and asked where were we going to. We walked together and talked a bit, and my friend took a cab home. After she left, he directly asked me what role i was... you know, i was a little drunk and told him, so the invitation was there, and even when i honestly dont like those kind of stuff, i agreed. There were no place to go. LOL. We ended in a cab going to each other homes, but he sent me a whatsapp message to register his number. This afternoon, he asked me to met him at a casino and have sex. I just... dont want to. I mean, i dont know who he is, i dont know if he is healthy, if he is a serial killer, you know. I like him, he is so f***** handsome... but i dont want to go that fast. I'd like to know him a little more before that. The point is, What do you think? how do i say that to him without scaring him away? Any tips? Suggestions? TY
Definitely don't just have sex with him. You deserve someone who respects you. That's definitely not respect. I would tell him that you would rather get to know him first and that you're interested in a real relationship rather than just sex.
Update: so, we chatted a bit last night and he told me he was chatting with a guy and he was going to meet him in a car to f*** him aaand if I wanted to join them (wut?), again I told him I wasn't able to. When I asked him who that guy was, he just answered it was a man he was talking to and he haven't met before. Ok, what the hell? What kind of concept does he has about me? I'm not a wh*** he can asks for sex whenever he wants. I don't even know his age! He is handsome... But definitely not That handsome. After a while he told me that he had no sex since he came back from college two weeks ago. He also told me the other guy wasn't able either but they where going to meet at his house outside the city tonight., once again the invitation is there.
Haha, perhaps I answered one of them, yes. XD The other one would be how do I change that "only sex" relationship to a "friends" relationship ol