I've started to wonder if I'm actually gay rather than bisexual. I mean like I can find a woman attractive but I dont know how much of it is being... forced? I'm not sure if that's the right word for it. Like more and more often I'll see a woman and I'll think to myself "she's pretty" but then I'll see a picture of a guy and it's like "OH MY GAWD HE'S SO HOT BLEHHHH" And then my brain just melts. Furthermore, I dont honestly recall ever having the "my goodness you're so adorable" moments for a girl but I have them frequently for guys. I've only ever had real, "I'm in love with you" feelings for a guy... And if we want to get blunt even when I watch straight porn, I'm focusing on the guy and lesbian porn doesn't reallly turn me on. Even when I masturbate my fantasies are (now that I think about it) all have to do with men. So yeah, am I gay or am I bisexual with a heavy leaning towards guys?
Do you ever feel sexually and romantically interested in women? If so, then yeah, I would say you're bi or bi leaning towards guys, depending on how interested you are in women. If not, then you're probably Kinsey 6. If this means anything, to me, girls can be pretty, but I never feel sexually and romantically interested in them. On the other hand, I very easily see myself having both connections with guys. I would probably fall under Kinsey 6 or exclusively gay. I avoid identifying myself on the Kinsey scale because some people don't know what that means, and it's more unwieldy than just describing myself as gay. However, I understand that it is a useful tool for those who don't identify on the extremes of Kinsey 1, 3, or 6.
In my opinion I think everyone kind of floats along somewhere on the spectrum of sexuality. For me I think I'm leaning more towards one edge of the spectrum enough for me to say that "I'm gay" if someone asked and anything else would just be needlessly pedantic. So with analyzing my attractions, fantasies and patterns of behavior "gay" seems to be a pretty accurate description of my sexuality if someone were to ask. I could get more detailed if people are interested but for now it serves it's purpose. Thanks for replying Hiems and giving me a little more to think about.
I remember in college when all the guys would droll over the hot girls, I always felt really uncomfortable, and would occasionally chime in with something. I never pursued women because there just wasn't that drive. I felt like I was supposed to date, but my one or two attempts didn't work out and I didn't know why. Probably because they were expecting me to do something more than just take them out to dinner and then drop them off at their dorm, with not even a kiss. But I was hot for all kinds of men. I just couldn't connect the dots and realize that I was different from the guys who put all that energy into dating. What we do, and want to do, is a good indicator of who we are. I thought the two could be split out, could be separated, but it doesn't work like that! (&&&)
