Hey! So I can't figure out if I'm asexual or not so I want some opinions. I can find people attractive + sexually attractive and I can get off on thinking about other people. I can't get off thinking about myself and another person though. This is mostly because of my bottom dysphoria and body dysphoria in general. The idea of me having sex with another person grosses me out. I don't want people looking at me without my clothes off or touching me - the idea makes me queasy. I don't think that feeling would change even after surgeries + hormones. But, If I form the mental picture of myself in the perfect cis body I want, then it's not as gross. While the idea of it sounds better, I still can't get off thinking about it though. And I wouldn't mind pleasuring my partner either, as long as the action isn't reciprocated. So what do you think?
Hmm, it sounds a little more like insecurities to me. Asexuality is lack of sexual desires.. For me, I can't really masturbate either. It just doesn't really happen for me. My sex drive is almost non existent...So the fact that you can think of doing it or pleasuring other people with your "perfect cis body" as you put it, then it could just be insecurities...I don't know. That's what it sounds like to me, but I could be totally wrong...
Hey! I'm glad I found this because it triggered a memory of a person I encountered recently who identified as what they called "autochorisexual". They considered themself to be asexual, but were on down the spectrum to autochorisexual. This means that they are capable of sexual arousal and can fantasize, but never want to be touched or participate in physical sexual activity with anyone. I know this doesn't completely explain your feelings, since you wouldn't mind participating, you just don't want to be touched. But hopefully some research of this term could lead you to more of an understanding. Although, I could also see you being..ummm...bisexual? Not really sure, you didn't specify a gender(s), and just having body dysphoria, which I could see affecting your feelings of wanting to be touched/looked at/etc. I think a strong discomfort with our own selves can create conflict when in situations with others. Nothing to be ashamed of, just something to think about working on, mentally perhaps? I'm trying to get away from the whole "labeling" thing, but I find that labels are good starts for research and understanding what interests and attracts us.
Hello, From what I know, there are multiple types of asexual people. There are some asexual people who do feel themselves attracted to others, but do not want any sexual relationship . There are other asexual people who do not feel attracted to others at all and do not wan to be associated with others in a relationship. I am sure there are a few more but I do not know. I feel the same way actually. I do feel attracted to others but I cannot ever picture myself having sex with others. Touching and cuddling is fine, but not anything beyond that. Not even kissing. I do watch porn and stuff but I can not ever watch the sex part. The idea of sex just disgusts me.
You could have a look at this thread: Being a Trans* guy and sex.. Concerning not much sex drive, it could be various reasons... meds... a phase of stress... you could try some daily exercises... a healthy nutrition... cutting on sugar... trying some relaxation/meditation techniques... @ellie if you want to guide to a certain post you just may add the number of the posting like #3 . hugs
