-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Umh, I am reposting this because I first posted this on the Welcome Lounge. I guessed I must have been carried away. So this is my first time on empty closets, I kind of need some advice. Well I'm feeling confused about myself - I don't know if I gay or bi but I'm sure I know I am nowhere near straight. I still like girls though but most of the time I would catch myself looking more at guys. I even had a crush on one, once. It's really frustrating. I wish my brain would just make up its mind. Back then, I don't really feel confused. Maybe I just didn't know it yet. Sometimes I would think that the feeling I'm going through right now was because of the kiss I got from a boy when I was 13, I think. But then again It couldn't be because I didn't even feel any emotions towards that kiss back then. Or did I? In High school, I was always tease at school about the way I act, move or even the way I write my notes(probably because my notes where neat). I remember designing gowns for the girls before prom. It was fun because they would compliment me as a good artist but after that most of the guys would make jokes about me. Now that I'm in college, I tried to change myself but it did not even help.. It just made me look like a fool. I don't even know what to do anymore. I've done my research and most of them said this is just a phase. But what if it's not. Maybe If I embrace this feeling everything would be ok.. But what if it did not turn out ok. Most of my friends would even asked me to just admit what I am because they would still accept me. I don't even know what I am - I know it would be easy to tell I'm gay but what if I'm not.
Hello. I posted my opinion in the welcome lounge, but I copy it here too.... I don't think you have to change yourself, just to satisfy others. I would advice you, to be who you really wanna be. As time goes by, it will come clear what are your feelings. You don't have to say that you're gay or bi. If you feel something towards both girls and guys it's ok. And this feeling don't have to be 50-50% for both gender.... I hope it was clear... I hope you will find your answer in this forum.
I think it's entirely awesome and normal that you feel attracted to men and women in different ways at different times and in different, uncertain ways. I feel that way all the time! Luckily, neither you nor I has to be forced to have a sexual orientation. It's completely fine and wonderful not to have a sexual orientation. You're the most important to decide if it even makes sense to keep trying to figure out if you fit into box a, b, or c. If you don't feel like having a sexual orientation, and someone asks what yours is, guess what? You don't have to talk to them! You don't have to identify to them. You get to decide. Gender is not any different, just a little more complex sometimes. You don't have to decide what your femininity means or what to do about it. You get to just be you and feel what it feels like to be you. You just get to exist and live and love! That is the coolest and best thing in the entire world. You are blessed! Good luck with everything and please embrace who you are. You are magic and nothing can change that. Sexuality is an amazing thing that doesn't have to have a word affixed to it. Try something or don't! It's entirely up to you! Good luck, lovely friend!
