So you cocluded that you are not gay ,just because you haven't been with an other guy yet? In a previous port you said that you have a crush on someone and you really want him. It doesn't sound very straight to me though.... but be who you want to be, it was just an opinion.
Like you said, you're going through stress now so you got a lot on your mind at the moment. Work on reducing your stress levels first, then find out why is it that you think you aren't gay.
Hey Pine, Did anything in particular happen to make you question things? Mate, I've gone from thinking I was gay to thinking I was straight to thinking I was anywhere on a never ending scale in between the two The only words of wisdom I can give is to give yourself time. If you're questioning things then you can drive yourself insane trying to find out the answers. If that's the case then you need to work on being comfortable with the unknown. It's horrible I know but you'll work things out eventually.
I don't know how to reduce the stress. If I wasn't gay that would help a lot. I can't help but wish I could change.
Hey Pine, It is perfectly possible to be gay and be happy, even with society's pressure to change us (which is not possible, as it is a normal thing and it is part of us). You don't need to have been with a guy to know if you are or not gay, the same way that a straight men don't need to have been with a girl to know he is straight. It is something you can conclude based on your feelings and sexual desires. To reduce stress, may i suggest that you talk to us about what you are feeling? You can even use the Anonymous section if you prefer, but getting things off your chest can help a lot. We are here for you. (*hug*)
I guess its normal to be not 100% shure of your orientation all the time... I had a time I identify as straight, a few years ago ^^ I had some relationship thingys with woman, but the last years I just want to find the right man... I personally hate labels.. I don't think it's necessary to label myself - I don't know what I will like in 5 years. May I ask how old you are?
I'm 18. I've just been through some stress and I'm trying to figure out what I should do. Thanks for your suggestions.
If you want to be with a man and you feel attracted to men, you are gay. It doesn't matter if you have been with one.
Pine, just know that you don't need all the answer TODAY. If you can, try not to obsess over it too much. Your true sexuality will show itself to you one day.
Pine, I totally get that it feels like it would be easier to be straight. It would also be easier for someone who's a paraplegic to be able to walk. But that isn't usually possible, and in the same way, we can't change sexual orientation. Only you know for sure, but from what you've described so far, you have strong sexual attraction to guys, it sounds like you masturbate thinking about guys, and there's little, if anything, to indicate you have attraction to girls. If that's the case... the likelihood that you're straight is pretty close to zero. So if I'm correct in the assumptions I've made above, you need to work on accepting and loving yourself. You may have to be patient about finding a partner... but then, with all that's going on for you right now, even if you found one (guy or girl), it wouldn't be a healthy relationship. Why? Because your self esteem is so low you're going to attract someone who's incredibly unhealthy, and/or you're going to rely on that person's attention and love for your own self-esteem, which is really, really dangerous to your mental health. If you can instead start working on believing in yourself and loving yourself, I think you'll find that your whole outlook on the world can begin to change.
