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HELP! BI OR STRAIGHT? Been wondering for too long!

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by EferfaLogangasi, Feb 1, 2015.

  1. HERE IT GOES! I am a female, between the ages of 13-15 so I'm obviously very young and in that puberty/crazy hormones stage still. In middle school, I started questioning my sexuality. When I was 12 I was deeply in love and very obsessed with a young, female teacher of mine (I know it's weird, but she was like 25 and so pretty) the crush lasted for a long time, however now I am over it. It was a genuine crush because I also fantasised about her romantically and sexually. To my friends and all, I tried to brush it off as nothing serious, just a little fake crush or something. But deep inside, I knew it was real. I'm very glad I'm over it, gotta love being 12.
    Throughout the last 4 years, most of my crushes have been on guys. The only real crush I had on a girl was on that teacher. For dating and marriage and things like that, I prefer guys all the way 100%. But I could see myself having a thing with girls, like a very brief and maybe secret relationship with one, nothing serious. I've also made compliments to girls inside my mind, more so than guys (likely because there aren't a lot of hot guys in my school lmao) you know I would see a girl and be like "wow, she's hot", things like that. I do fantasise about girls often, sometimes I picture myself making out with a hot girl from school haha. Both boys and girls turn me on sexually though. I could easily orgasm fantasising about boys and girls, same with porn oops.:rolle:
    I thought about myself being bi-curious, but I think I may be a little more than that. Possibly bisexual, but in a way I don't think so because I think (or thought) bisexual people like to date or even marry any of the two sexes, while I only prefer to be in a good relationship and build a serious relationship with one sex (males), but maybe, have a friends-with-benefits type of thing or like just a very brief affair that would last like a week with the other (females)*
    I could see myself enjoying sex and kissing a girl. It's something I desperately want to do now, actually (the kissing) but I need to wait for some bi/bi-curious girls to come along. But in the meantime, I don't really know about my sexuality. I've never experimented before but I defiantly will. Like I said before, guys are my main thing but I don't really mind some girls on the side lolol. Once again, I'm a teen, female.*
     
  2. LittleGecko

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    Most bi people prefer one gender over the other. You sound bi-curious too me though. It doesn't really matter, stop trying to label yourself and have fun!
     
  3. bazinga91

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    This is a question you will have to answer yourself in time.. I like and dated guys and thought oh I just want to experiment with girls and I would marry a guy but as I got older my feelings got stronger and I'm a lesbian but that is me. I think you need to just live your life, be happy and try new things. As the years go by and you have experiences you might be able to better understand yourself and your feelings. I agree with littlegecko, dont worry about the labels, just live your life and be happy!
     
  4. I'm probably going to consider myself bisexual though. Bisexual with a 60% preference for men and a 40% for women. Since I'm sexually attracted to both, this seems legit...
     
  5. vicky90

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    Although, you are too young and brave to worry about this - I do understand your emphasis on solving this stress inducing problem. Figuring your sexuality may give you some relief - but not always. I would really suggest. Don't stress about this for now. Just enjoy your life. When you have sufficient evidences, confidence, experiences, understanding about your own life - picture will become clear and you will "feel" who you truly are - "You will see it coming" !!! There is no perfect time, path for this.

    So, for now, just stay relaxed - and be happy with yourself - regardless of the label that you are going to find suitable in future.

    Great to see more and more young people are utilizing different mediums of communications - to understand and improve their lives.. World is really progressing.!
     

  6. You do have a point. Not labelling myself has been a bit hard for me though, so I thought of bisexual FOR NOW. But you are absolutely right. I know time will come and someday I'll know for sure. Maybe I do turn out to be bi after all after a few experiences, or at the age of 20 I'd turn out to be as straight as a pole lol. The teen years are crazy. I now feel comfortable and happy, especially after sorta coming out to my close friend about my sexuality a couple of hours ago. We'll see what the future holds!