Hello all, I'm new here. This topic has two parts to it... so first part: Recently I have been questioning my sexuality. Before I knew that I was trans, I was strictly into guys but after coming out, my attention was mostly on girls. But every now and then I get these gay fantasies in my mind about having sex with guys. I question if I may just be bisexual but I never think about being in a romantic relationship with guys, its only sexual. With girls, it is romantic and sexual. Can I still consider myself bisexual if I don't have an interest in actually dating guys? Now second part: as a trans guy and thinking about gay sex, I get really dysphoric at times thinking about my lack of male genitalia. I just get scared thinking that no guy would want to hook up with me because I don't have a penis. So i ask the gay guys here if they would have sex with a trans guy who was pre op?
Yes, you can be considered bisexual even though you just have a romantic preference for women. There has been this kind of question asked recently, and it seems like a lot of people will still have sex with a trans guy (especially if they consider themselves pansexual) - even pre-op, but solely just gay guys might have different opinions.
Bisexual, but heteroromantic maybe. And some gay guys will, some won't. I think it depends on how far the trans guy is in his transition as well. I personally MIGHT have a hard time having sex with a trans guy who choose not to have the bottom operation (as many of us do), even though I also choose not to because of pain of the surgery. I mean, even with a cis guy I'm just going to use a strap on anyways (and preform other sexual acts that do not involve touching of my own genitals). But still. I don't know, I guess it might depend on what sexual things we'd be doing.. But of course, I'd date/be in a relationship a fellow trans guy.
Welcome to EC, Cal101. As long as you want/do have sex with males and with females, you are bisexual. There was a thread about this I think, and some gay guys were saying they were ok with dating a transman, others were not so cool about it. It really depends on who you ask.
Thanks for the responses, it helps a lot. I guess I am bisexual. Btw, is it possible for someone to link me to the thread you's were talking about?
You're very welcome! Here's the thread: http://emptyclosets.com/forum/anony...540-straight-bisexual-pansexual-girls%85.html
