Do you think it's possible to be so entrenched in the assumption of being straight that you could develop a crush on someone of the same sex without realizing it's a crush? Has anyone had the experience of having a sudden attraction to someone of an unexpected gender, only to realize much later on that your feelings were more than platonic? Just out of curiosity!
I'm kinda gay, but I think I'm gonna end up straight. I've been having a semi-crush on this girl in my class lately that caught me off guard.
When I thought I was straight I had a few crushes on girls but I was so in denial that I didn't realize what they were.
I think so, I'm pretty sure it was the case with me. Age 11/12 developed an intense friendship I considered to be "sisters" but when our friendship "broke up" it was a lot more like going through a relationship break up than anything else. In high school, I was too dense to realize that doodling about your female friend and being jealous of her boyfriend (not jealous that she had one, but jealous that *he* got to be with *her*) was not the norm.
I had a few obsessions over certain girls when I was younger, although there wasn't much sexual about it so I never recognized it as a crush. Looking back though, I might consider these "obsessions" to be crushes on them.
It is possible. I've had ~3 crushes on girls, and I had no idea what it was until I discovered my sexuality. I just thought I liked them as friends. One time I even asked out on a date my that time best friend, I liked her, she took it as a joke, and I forgot it, a few months from now I told her I'm gay and she mentioned me this, she said 'I should have known...' lol.
Thanks for your responses! I was wondering because something like this happened to me as well: I only liked guys and assumed I was straight until I became very attached to a female friend in my early 20's. I didn't have sexual thoughts about her, but I realized later on that my attachment to her was a little more than platonic. It was from this point I suspected I wasn't exactly straight. But then again, I haven't felt that way about another girl since, and it's been a while... (I'm 29 now.) So I can't help but wonder if that experience is really enough to say I'm not straight, you know? I'm definitely interested in girls in general (i.e. I notice attractive girls and like the idea of being with a girl), but I haven't yet had the experience of falling in love with one and I wonder if it's ever going to happen. Yet for some reason I really want it to happen, and I can't stop thinking about it. ><;; Ugh!
I've had this. Not so much because I thought I was straight as I was always sort of aware I was not even if I didn't understand the labels, but I have liked specific women for a long time before it clicked that I had a crush on them. I'm quicker to realise nowadays but still not necessarily right away, however I am usually more focused on a woman's personality so it takes times for me to develop a crush in any event. So how much of it is down to my sexuality is hard to say. Certainly for what I've seen others post it does seem to be a common occurrence.
