I'm pretty sure my sexuality is repressed. Often times when I see an attractive girl I force myself not to be attracted to her. Especially when I think I shouldn't be attracted to her. When I'm out and about I might check out girls, but I never end up thinking sexual thoughts. I'm sick of being repressed, but I'm not a fan of my sexuality. What can I do?
just to get a bit more info, do you absolutely know you're a lesbian? if you don't feel attraction, you could be "curious" or maybe part-asexual. (*hug*) hope i can help i&w
I'm not entirely sure if I'm gay. I do know that I'm not straight. Mainly because I don't have feelings for boys like straight girls do. I think some guys are good looking, but it makes me cringe when I imagine a relationship with them. I sometimes think I'm attracted to some guys, but my stomach starts to feel uneasy if I imagine having sex with them. I also had a boyfriend when I was fourteen and fifteen. When I kissed my boyfriend I wanted to kiss a girl instead. I could be asexual-ish, but I don't think I am. Mainly because I try to stop myself from being attracted to certain girls. I don't think asexual people try to stop themselves from being attracted to people.
I went through the exact same thing. I would catch myself looking at women and quickly avert my gaze, think "no, don't look at HER, that's a girl" and so on. I was in deep denial for a long time. What's helped me is acknowledging that those feelings are there, and they are real, and they are important. Also, making the decision to allow myself to be open to those feelings. I suppose it was a combination of feeling dissatisfied with my life and realizing that in order to improve it, I needed to be honest with myself. If you find yourself "scolding" yourself for looking at women, try to remind yourself in those moments, "it's ok, this is what's natural for me, and it's hurting no one." Try to allow yourself to relax, and just experience your feelings as they come.
for what its worth, i did the same thing with guys for over 30 years. when i allowed myself to feel, WOW, what a sense of how great it felt to feel that attraction to a guy the way i feel it towards a girl. i guess im saying relax let it flow and then see. you are allowed to feel for any one you want.
You might think about some of those here: http://emptyclosets.com/forum/chit-...fo-you-got-ec-helped-you-accept-yourself.html
You should definitely start watching lesbian youtoubers if you don't already… They really helped me feel more comfortable with my sexuality. Here are a few that I like! Kaelyn and Lucy, Cammie and Shannon, Rose and Rosie, Megan and Whitney (so many more, obviously can't name them all)
I did, but they just make me more sad. I'm pretty annoyed at myself for not being sure of my sexuality. It's just painful to watch people that are so sure of themselves. It makes me feel pathetic.
They have also gone through a process. I'd say take the time you need and listen to your feelings. And simply enjoy. hugs ---------- Post added 10th Feb 2015 at 06:16 PM ---------- I'd say: when we accept and love ourselves (and others) we will be happy (all within boundaries that are healthy) the being different infers some kind of judgement... imo it should be seen with an eye of love... hugs
