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Feel like I am hiding a big secret... uncomfortable with it

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by blue6, Feb 10, 2015.

  1. blue6

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    Over the past year I have acknowledged and realized by feelings for girls.. but I am not sure what my sexual orientation is

    I have gotten close to guys, and have been asked out but I have always said no.. I have found guys attractive but I think it could just be in a romantic way

    What do u think?
     
  2. Spartan 117

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    Unfortunately, it's really hard for us to tell what your sexuality is. :slight_smile: Sexuality is such a broad spectrum, and you could fall anywhere on that spectrum.

    I think the best way to figure things out is to be patient with yourself, don't worry too much about what 'label' you fit in to - and just follow your heart towards whoever makes you happy! I know that sounds cheesy, but it's true!

    Perhaps you could have purely romantic attraction towards guys. A lot of people say they feel like their sexual and romantic attraction are separate. They often identify as "hetro/homo/bi romantic" :slight_smile: For instance, a "Bi-romantic homosexual" would feel romantically attracted to both genders, but only sexually attracted to their own. Confusing I know, but it's something to think about!
     
  3. ForNarnia

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    I totally agree with Spartan 117 :slight_smile: