Did you have to have sex to know? Or were you just so certain that you didn't feel the compulsion to? It's just that my friends have urged me to 'see if things work out' with this guy. He's what most girls would consider to be the 'perfect gentleman-type-nerdy-hottie' and as corny as it sounds, he is! But there's that unidentifiable absence, alongside the weighing sexuality confusion :eusa_doh: I mean I want to want to like this Prince Charming, but I can't! I also don't want to admit that I'm a L...... when I haven't even had sex with a guy...:dry: I also don't want to hurt him, even if it comes at the cost of dissatisfaction. Ugh! How are you supposed to know?! HOW DID YOU FIGURE IT OUT?! It's interfering with my studies, I can't even function, its crippling!! :bang:
Absolutely not. I thought I used to be interested in men when I was younger, opportunities presented themselves for me to sleep with them but I never did...it just never seemed right. But when I met my girlfriend...I was so insanely attracted to her and it all just happened. Any interest I may (?) have ever had in sleeping with men is gone. But that's just my story, everyone is different. I'd suggest you try to be patient with yourself, don't let your friends pressure you into anything. It's your life. If you don't want to sleep with him, don't. If you don't want to sleep with a girl, don't. If you don't want to sleep with anyone, then don't. I don't necessarily think there's anything wrong with experimenting either...but just from observation it seems to get tricky because someone's feelings tend to get involved. If you're not into this guy enough to sleep with him, then it's the best thing for you AND him to not sleep with him. Even if it hurts his feelings now. I waited until it felt right and I have no regrets. I had a lot of peer pressure too. Above all else, be true to yourself. Love who you love. Hang in there and try to be patient, practice being really present and aware with your feelings. They will help guide you. The answer may just find you when you least expect it.
No, that's ridiculous. Do you have to drink urine to know you don't like it? What's wrong with just not liking something and being put off it? Also, I find that this is worse for lesbians because if you sleep with a man, people will still convince you that you're straight anyway because 'real lesbians don't touch dick', not to mention a lot of lesbians hate on women who have slept with men before. On top of that, it can fill you with a lifetime of regret.
Ha, no, I've never even kissed anyone! :lol: As for your question of how I figured it out... I just started to realize how strong my feelings were for girls, in comparison with my feelings for guys. It was a long process, and there's no shortcut to it. It will take however long it will take.
Nope, I don't think so. From personal experience, I made out with a girl one time and it gave me a huge boner. I didn't fap for a week since the experience was that amazing. A while back, I fapped with some older guy near my area on the webcam and it was not great. The whole thing felt awkward and disgusting. The fact that I was fapping with some guy as old as my dad made me feel terrible and guilty. I guess it's one of those taboo genres in porn but in reality would feel gross to me. It gave me shivers. And it did not help me determine my orientation. Actually, come to think of it, the experience made me even more confused. My advice: Interacting/socializing with others give you a better idea of who you are interested in. whenever I'm talking with guys, there's no "I would want to date him". I don't look at guys that way, but girls on the other hand I do. When a girl touched my arm with her hand, it gave me a rush of excitement. So with that said, I've determined that I'm mostly straight, or bi at the very least.
