Hello All, I posted here a while back but have sense struggled to come to any real conclusion. I admittedly just pushed it back down and got on with my life. I have accepted my feeling for men. Only having brief encounters with a friend as a teen, I never had any real experience. As I got older I followed the norm and started dating girls. It went well and as a horny young boy I found myself enjoying it fine. I am now 28 and married. I have pretty regular sex with my wife, but rarely ever feel excited. Unless I’m just super horny. Aside from all that I have told her that I currently consider myself to be Bi. I know men turn me on and I constantly fantasize and dream about them. But I do still find woman pretty but the thought doesn’t excite me like being with a guy. Does my ability to still be intimate with her make me bi? Do I have to be turned off by woman to be gay? How do I REALLY KNOW?:bang:
Do you like the female dynamic? Does the female body turn you on? You are either Kinsey 4 Homosexual or afraid that you might be gay and worried you will hurt your marriage.
For me the Female body has never been a huge turn on. They are beautiful creatures capible of amazings things. I know it sounds like im discribing a prize winning horse. I have always been confused at Men who objectify woman as objects to lust over. I have never been able to look at women in a magazines or porn to get excited, I always have to close my eyes and rely on my imagination which frequently(alot more lately) pictures men.
Then I would say you're most likely a Biromantic Homosexual. Meaning, you are able to feel romantic feelings for a woman and a man, but only sexual feelings for a man.
That does make sence when I think about it. Never really considered romantic and sexual orientations being different. Thank you for your help!
You are very welcome! It might hurt your wife's feelings if/when you tell her. So please be cautious. <3
My wife is my biggest concern. I wish I could have come to terms with this alot sooner. I honestly dont know what it is that is pushing me to get this figured out, but it has been keeping me up at night. I dont regret my marriage but I hate the idea of hurting her due to this.
Yeah, I know how you must feel. You crave a man, but you feel like you'd be hurting your best friend if you told her how you feel.
