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What Am I, I'm so confused

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by idontknowmyself, Feb 20, 2015.

  1. idontknowmyself

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    I feel like I'm a mess when it comes to my sexual orientation. I've honestly liked both girls and guys. I've had good sexual experiences with girls, and I haven't ever done anything with a man, but I'm pretty sure I would enjoy it if I did (I'm just to nervous to actually try anything). When I was dating my first girlfriend I watched and got off to straight redhead porn, because she was a redhead and it reminded me of her. And then when I was single I got off to gay porn for a bit, mostly sub and dom oriented. And then straight again when I got a new girl who was blonde. And this is going to sound weird, but we went through a phase where we broke up and didn't see each other for a bit, and when I saw her again I wanted to have sex with her like crazy, and then when that didn't happen I went through this intense gay phase for like three days where I only wanted dudes. At the same time I can't really have sex with anyone unless I know them on a deep level. Like I may think a girl is attractive, but the idea of doing anything with her isn't really there unless we have some sort of emotional relationship. Same with dudes, but slightly less so. And honestly emotional relationships (with both women and men) sound a lot more appealing to me than physical ones. Like I would much rather know that someone cares about me deeply than that they want me in bed. So that has me wondering If I'm asexual? Im a 19 year old male who can go months without masturbating and feel fine. But then I'll go through some really sexual phase and just want to have sex and that confuses me. Genuinely don't know what I am or what I want and I'm honestly kind of obsessed about it. What am I. If anyone could please help me or give me some ideas I would be so grateful. I know it doesn't sound like a big deal but it's really getting to me.
     
  2. QuestForTruth

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    You're honestly bisexual. :wink:

    PS You should try something with a guy sometime, of course when you're ready. I've found that looking at men from afar or in porn, and actually being with one are very different.
     
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  3. kai397

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    yep bisexual
     
  4. The Falcon

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    I feel completely the same.

    My friends think I am bi, and they ask me if a like some famous hot actor, and I just reply: it doesn't work like that! I can not be attracted to anyone for a long time, am I asexual?

    They ask me if I have to choose between a homo or a hetero label and I say that if I have to choose I'll go with homo, but then on the homo scale I am more asexual... It is weird. It is maybe just repression...

    Oh well... You are not alone.
     
  5. Emily1

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    I wouldn't worry about not wanting to have sex with every attractive person you see. Wanting some form of connection prior to sex is very normal, for everyone of any sexual orientation.
     
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    You could be demisexual if you need an emotional connection before feeling sexually attracted to a guy or a girl.