A little background information: I came out to my friends as a lesbian two years ago and to my parents about four months after that. My friends were all accepting but my parents were quick to deny it and now just ignore the fact that I like girls. I have slid around the queer spectrum quite a lot, and it took me a long time to try and figure out what to call myself (labels are overrated- but I need them for stabilty and validation). But lately I have been questioning myself again. I have been finding men more attractive than usual and I have been getting consistent fours on the kinsey scale. Does this make me bisexual? Should I feel bad about maybe not being as gay as I thought before? Do I have to come out again? Like, what should I do? I am very confused and it has been bothering me for a while- mostly because I don't know what to call this. Any and all advice will be appreciated ^^
WhaleShark, I'm so sorry that you are hurting. (*hug*) Please realize that it is OK to be questioning. Please realize that you don't need all the answers today. I wouldn't be too concerned about coming out again or telling people. One day, your true sexuality will reveal itself. In the mean time, I would try not to stress about it too much. Here is a link on basic stress coping mechanisms. You may find it useful. Stress Management: How to Reduce, Prevent, and Cope with Stress You will get through this. (*hug*)
I still don't know what my attractions mean, but it fluctuates quite often so I'll stick to fluid no matter how "gay" or "straight" or "bi" everyday. That's how quick it changes, so it's hard to stick with a general label, at least for me. I guess you should label yourself according to what feels right for you. At the moment no label feels right for me because it changes so often, so fluid best represents that.
