Dreamed for straight life, but my sexuality clashes

yup

---------- Post added 5th Mar 2015 at 12:58 PM ----------

I used to dream of being married to a nice guy and having kids. but I jus dont feel that way about guys, and now I dream about that stuff but with a wife, and it makes me much more happy.

 

Of course.

In fact I'd be surprised if you find someone who imagined they were going to be gay in the future.

 

Oh yeah.
I wanted to be stay-at-home kind of parent, maybe only working occasionally, because I love kids. And I wanted (still do) a whole bunch.
And for me, that dream made me realize a few things, 1) I wanted to be a dad, not a mom, and 2) I still liked guys.

That threw me off for sure.

But that doesn't mean you can't still have that. I plan on adopting kids.

 

Handle it as you do. Ask questions to yourself, ask other people, muddle through.

I dreamed of a lot of things but it seems everything in life has turned out so different from what my dreams were. I feel disappointment and guilt but at some point I guess you either break down from the stress or cut yourself some slack on being human.

Perhaps getting out and about, doing activities you love and meeting the woman of your dreams will take your mind of what you cannot change.

 

Me?
Well, I haven't come out to most people yet.
I am not in any sort of relationship either, and I'm still a teenager, so kids of my own is a distant dream, not something I will have soon.
I do childcare work and babysitting occasionally, so that's how I get my baby fix.

---------- Post added 5th Mar 2015 at 03:26 PM ----------

If you want to make yourself totally fine with not having kids yet, I would recommend working with a large group of 2-year-olds, with a few infants mixed in.

It will erase all of your thoughts, leaving only instinct.

 

This is so true for me!

I turned 37 today.... :eek: :eek:

I have always wanted 2 or 3 kids but never even had a real relationship yet!!!

I like some women but also keep getting attracted to men - I could settle down with a guy, but I only fancy bisexual guys, so the chances are rather slim... :icon_sad::icon_sad:

 

You can achieve all of that with a woman! I would suggest searching out happy women in relationships with other women. You can do it online if you can't find any IRL. Having them say positive things about their relationship and family can really help one stop believing they're doomed.